Where to Find Your Missing Piece
You never find yourself until you face the truth. – Pearl Bailey
Every now and then we feel a nudge somewhere deep inside and close to our souls.
We feel the emptiness and the panic when the realization hits us that something is missing – but we don’t know what it is, or when it may have disappeared or if we had it in the first place. We may not even know it’s missing until we are teased with a glimpse of its existence.
Sometimes the most difficult thing to endure is realizing what we want does indeed exist; we just can’t get to it, or have it right now.
The longing, the missing, of something can be painful. However, pain can tells us something. Pain can serve as a compass to point us in new directions and new opportunities. Pain can motivate us to understand the purpose of why something is missing. Our pain can help us find the missing piece.
In our moments of quiet desperation we push stuff down into the holes hoping to fill them up. We drink one beer too many or we eat when we are not hungry. We exercise too much or we pray even when we are not feeling spiritual.
We refuse to show our pain to the world; we self-medicate hoping to find relief; we wear our fear like a blanket. But when the last drink is sipped or the final bite is swallowed, we are still hiding in plain sight – wrapped tightly in our shame of not being able to find the missing piece.
While it’s true we just can’t have it all, somewhere along the way we were lead to believe we should. There’s no question love, money, personal relationships and success are all important, but reality suggests these things will always ebb and flow. By setting realistic expectations we are better able to reconcile the gaps when they do occur.
Perhaps what’s missing is only dormant for a while. Perhaps when something is removed from our life it’s so we can focus on another area. Remember this: Never get too excited with the high, highs in your life or too devastated with the low, lows. Instead, aim for someplace in between – a balance of the two.
Life is a process and its lessons are taught to us each day. It may be that what we want is removed for a while so we can concentrate on something else – something that will provide better answers.
Sometimes the less you try to find the source of what you are missing, the closer you become to finding the answer. At the end of the day you are here; you are a person of tremendous value and worth; and you are not missing.
Focus on nurturing you soul. Respond to the nudge by acknowledging its existence, but stay grounded with what you are doing and stay within your heart. The missing piece will fall into place naturally.
When it does, you will know its truth by how it fits.
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16 Responses to “Where to Find Your Missing Piece”
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I love this, Alex. I find that not taking the highs and lows too seriously also helps you to think with more clarity for that answer you just might be waiting on. Appreciate you, my friend. Hope your Christmas season is going great.
It’s been a month since I’ve lost my mother. Everytime I’m asked how I’m doing I say fine or pushing through one day at a time. Thank you for this article. I do find myself looking out to the horizon & thinking about new opportunities & direction. I feel a spark within which cannot be described at this moment.
Wanted to reach out & thank you …I do enjoy reading your work.
Regards,
Sherna
Bryan – clarity does help us see the happiness. I hope you have a wonderful holiday season, too.
Sherna – I’m thinking of you during this difficult phase. Stay strong and keep your faith alive!
Dear Alex ,i love his write up ,the last line that says ,Focus on nurturing your soul Respond to the nudge by Acknowledging it existence but stay grounded with what you are doing stay within you.the missing piece will fall into place naturally.this is exactly what i experience , but i let this things be, but to God be the glory ,every thing fall into place on its own. thank you ALEX
Good for you ify, good for you. I wish continued blessings for your life.
Alex, I’ve learnt that my missing pieces are in parts of me I deny or hide away like my amateur money management and lack of flexibility. It’s like looking for missing pieces of a jigsaw puzzle and finding them in your own pocket. What’s missing is when I go missing myself!
Your words always go straight to my heart, Alex. Thank you for helping me remember that what seemed to be missing was inside me all along.
John – true, we must first acknowledge what we want to heal or change. Thanks for sharing such a compelling metaphor.
Jodi – same here my friend!
I love this Alex. Thank you for helping me remember that I am worth something!
Raquel – you are worth so much! Keep that truth in your heart always.
Wow, Well done, your descriptions were real. I think that it is possible, we need to focus somewhere else for doors to open. Thank You
Dee, sometimes it’s the door we never see that opens and reveals what’s missing.
Alex, thank you so much for this post. I found it at the perfect time, for me.
Melissa I’m glad it was the right medicine for you, and at the right time.
This hit home for me right now, wonderful words for me to remember and think about at,this point in my life.
Tim, thank you for sharing your encouragement and kind word!