Comments on: Why Does the Thunder Hide the Rain? http://www.thebridgemaker.com/why-does-the-thunder-hide-the-rain/ Simple paths to positive change Tue, 07 Feb 2012 23:51:14 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Kim from CA http://www.thebridgemaker.com/why-does-the-thunder-hide-the-rain/comment-page-1/#comment-2342 Kim from CA Wed, 31 Dec 2008 01:38:29 +0000 http://www.thenext45years.com/2008/04/why-does-the-thunder-hide-the-rain.html#comment-2342 Last week, I allowed myself to be free of a father that left us when I was in 6th grade. I later found him and lived with him for the last 13 yrs hoping he'd be a dad. I couldn't understand how he doesn't acknowledge that he has 4 kids and it has been and still eating inside me. The only happiness I can find is within myself and stop asking why and what I can do about the situation. So I moved out and he moved out....sadly, I don't miss him. Last week, I allowed myself to be free of a father that left us when I was in 6th grade. I later found him and lived with him for the last 13 yrs hoping he’d be a dad. I couldn’t understand how he doesn’t acknowledge that he has 4 kids and it has been and still eating inside me. The only happiness I can find is within myself and stop asking why and what I can do about the situation. So I moved out and he moved out….sadly, I don’t miss him.

]]> By: Pat R http://www.thebridgemaker.com/why-does-the-thunder-hide-the-rain/comment-page-1/#comment-1176 Pat R Sun, 11 May 2008 22:22:38 +0000 http://www.thenext45years.com/2008/04/why-does-the-thunder-hide-the-rain.html#comment-1176 Alex - thank you for sharing such a deeply, personal and courageous story. We wish on Mother's Day that we all could have the ideal mothers that loved and nurtured us as children. But, it doesn't happen like that more times than we'd like to admit. My mother didn't have addictions but nonetheless she had her obsession of jealously which she aimed at my father making him pay (for who knows what) for the rest of his life. We all ended up paying which seemed like such a waste. I tried without success to fix and reconcile things for them to no avail. Mom died in 1985 and Dad died in 1999. It wasn't until shortly after Mom died that I had a vivid dream that showed me she was being cut free from all that had bound her in her life. It also set me free and allowed me to forgive and let it go. I hope someday you will be able to find that place where you can let go what your mother has done and set her free as well as yourself. You're strong and courageous in how you've stopped the pattern of addiction and not allowed it to continue in your life and relationships. I honor you for that. Blessings, Alex – thank you for sharing such a deeply, personal and courageous story. We wish on Mother’s Day that we all could have the ideal mothers that loved and nurtured us as children. But, it doesn’t happen like that more times than we’d like to admit.

My mother didn’t have addictions but nonetheless she had her obsession of jealously which she aimed at my father making him pay (for who knows what) for the rest of his life. We all ended up paying which seemed like such a waste. I tried without success to fix and reconcile things for them to no avail. Mom died in 1985 and Dad died in 1999. It wasn’t until shortly after Mom died that I had a vivid dream that showed me she was being cut free from all that had bound her in her life. It also set me free and allowed me to forgive and let it go.

I hope someday you will be able to find that place where you can let go what your mother has done and set her free as well as yourself.

You’re strong and courageous in how you’ve stopped the pattern of addiction and not allowed it to continue in your life and relationships. I honor you for that.

Blessings,

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]]> By: Mary Beth (yeah, that one) http://www.thebridgemaker.com/why-does-the-thunder-hide-the-rain/comment-page-1/#comment-1201 Mary Beth (yeah, that one) Wed, 30 Apr 2008 17:48:06 +0000 http://www.thenext45years.com/2008/04/why-does-the-thunder-hide-the-rain.html#comment-1201 I have enjoyed reading the different perspectives of this blog that touched so many of you in many different ways. It is appearent that many of us have forgiveness issues with our parents (including myself). What I have learned through my own experiences and those of working with incest survivors in my MSW training is the parents who offend are not really monsters although their action may reflect that they are. What they are is a wounded child living and acting in an adult body. They didn't come into this world like that and their wounds they acquired along they way is what helped them evolve into their current state of woundedness. What separates those of us who were wounded who chose not to wound others is healing our own wounds. This might be done on our own or through the help of others. A crucial part of this healing process is learning to forgive but not necessarily absolve those who wounded us, including parents. I have enjoyed reading the different perspectives of this blog that touched so many of you in many different ways. It is appearent that many of us have forgiveness issues with our parents (including myself). What I have learned through my own experiences and those of working with incest survivors in my MSW training is the parents who offend are not really monsters although their action may reflect that they are. What they are is a wounded child living and acting in an adult body. They didn’t come into this world like that and their wounds they acquired along they way is what helped them evolve into their current state of woundedness. What separates those of us who were wounded who chose not to wound others is healing our own wounds. This might be done on our own or through the help of others. A crucial part of this healing process is learning to forgive but not necessarily absolve those who wounded us, including parents.

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