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The More You Give, the More You Have

By on Apr 10, 2013


the power of love

My bounty is as boundless as the sea,
My love as deep; the more I give to thee,
The more I have, for both are infinite.
Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet

Juliet was just a teenager when she proclaimed her love for Romeo, but she was wise beyond her years. She knew the truth about love.

True love expands and increases when it is given away, increasing for the giver as well as the receiver.

We sometimes think of love as an exchange. I will love you and you will love me back. A quid pro quo which must be traded in equal quantities or one person is left with less.

This kind of love is risky business, with potential for loss and pain. A bad bargain.

But love in its purest form is limitless. Like the loaves and fishes that Jesus blessed, love multiplies to feed the spirits of the hungry until all are sated…with more love left over. There is never not enough.

Love’s Secret

What is love’s secret? How does it do that?

No secret.

Love is the essence of the universe.

The Bible teaches that God is love, perfect love. And we are the children of God, created in his image; therefore, we are perfect love as well.

So to me, the question isn’t really how love does what it does, but rather why aren’t we all living in infinite love. What blocks our experience of the love that is as ever expanding as the universe itself?

Fear.

Love is blocked by fear.

We sometimes think of fear as the opposite of love, but love has no opposite. It is all encompassing and eternal.

However, our experience of love can be blocked, just as we can block the light of the sun without changing the steady brilliance of the sun at all. Fear acts in the same way to block the unchanging radiance of love.

Well, if that’s true, then I, for one, want to get rid of fear because I do not want my love sunshine blocked.

But how to do that?

Fighting with fear just makes it bigger because it acknowledges fear as real. I become afraid of fear. The simplest way to release fear is to let love do it for me. “Perfect love casts out fear.” 1 John 4:18.

Rather than fighting fear on my own, I can instead turn to the power of love and ask love to release me from my fear.

Then the way is open for pure love to flow into my spirit and forth into the world. The magic happens and I can feel love increase and expand with every breath, bringing joy and peace along for the ride.

Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared. – Unknown

Galen Pearl is the author of 10 Steps to Finding Your Happy Place (and Staying There), a blog devoted to helping us develop habits to grow a joyful spirit. In addition to writing, she leads workshops and discussion groups focused on increasing the joy in our lives. Connect with Galen Pearl here.

  • Well, this is very informative . and the title is very interesting is the more I gve the more I have. and this is very great.

  • Hi Alex – great to read Galen over here.

    I love the introduction with the Shakespeare quote. it’s a great quote but why is that kind of love just reserved for romantic relationships 🙂 ? We can apply it for every other area of of our love and be instruments of love to humanity. ok, at least, with our family, friends, colleageus and those we interact with daily.

    The other point which resonates is that we shouldn’t give love for the sake of getting love. Love works more powerfully when there’s no bargain involved. We just love. Always. Often.

    • Vishnu, I agree. Although Juliet was crazy in love with Romeo, her description of love is applicable beyond romantic love. Love that asks for a bargain in return is not of the spirit, but of the ego. It is based in fear because it fears losing something or being hurt. Love from the spirit cannot result in harm and only increases when it is given away. Thanks for your comment.