Instead of complaining that the rose bush is full of thorns, be happy the thorn bush has roses. – Proverb
Being disgruntled is becoming a way of life for most people, which is kind of sad if you think about. It’s become normal to be unhappy, to be depressed, and to find the complaints in each and every day.
We rarely stop to focus on how any given “bad” situation is actually affecting us. If we did we would probably be shocked to find that, despite how bad any one situation may have been, if we look hard enough there was some good that came from it.
I spent a few years after college in a really terrible job situation. I lamented the fact that my husband had a near-perfect job and I was coming home miserable every night. However now that I’ve shifted into a position more suited to my abilities I can see that I did gain something from that job other than countless tears and headaches. This is in line with almost every bad situation in life.
But despite that first bad job experience; I did learn five important things that are helping me see more of the good.
- You can power through any situation
- Find joy in outside interests
- Your situation doesn’t have to define you
- You don’t have to stay the same way forever
- Humbleness is a very attractive trait
Every tough situation that we’re presented with in life gives us two choices: to deal with it or to let it deal with us. It’s up to you to make the decision which way the situation will sway you. Are you going to act or are you going to fall victim to it? Everyone’s heard the cliché “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”… well, it’s a cliché because it’s true.
Despite being unhappy day in and day out with my work life, I was able to find gleaming spots of happiness in my everyday life when I took up running. Running freed me, it gave me the ability to pound away the day and to ride an endorphin-induced high for the remainder of the night. It allowed me to find sheer joy in the fact that I could really push myself farther than I ever had thought possible.
Gaining this confidence in one aspect of my life allowed me to let it transcend into others. Extracurricular outlets that are separate from whatever is hampering your days can be very gratifying experiences, enough so to make us find the simple joys of life.
I made the all too common mistake of letting my job, and my unhappiness, define me for years. But we don’t have to be defined by the bad experiences we go through. Instead allow the positive in your life to shape you into a better person. Define yourself and be the person that you WANT to be.
No matter how unhappy I was I wouldn’t ever leave my situation because, while horrible, it was still safe. The bottom line? I was scared and I figured that was just the card that had been dealt to me; that was just life. However you have the power to change any situation that you’re in – all you have to do is take the steps toward changing it.
Throughout any situation you are best serving yourself by remaining humble. Avoid feeling that you are owed more and avoid being flippant towards situations, and instead harness the determination to move forward with the understanding that change is gradual but eventual. Your efforts will eventually pay off.
At some point every bad situation will come to an end. In the interim it is up to us to either let it consume us or let it teach us. If you can learn from the lessons every life situation has to offer, then you life will begin to change for the better.