Comments on: No One is Perfect – So Be Kind to Yourself http://www.thebridgemaker.com/no-one-is-perfect-%e2%80%93-so-be-kind-to-yourself/ Simple paths to positive change Tue, 07 Feb 2012 23:51:14 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Ali Luke http://www.thebridgemaker.com/no-one-is-perfect-%e2%80%93-so-be-kind-to-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-13769 Ali Luke Wed, 21 Dec 2011 12:21:35 +0000 http://www.thebridgemaker.com/?p=3491#comment-13769 Thanks, Rhoberta. (I'm thrilled to see this post is still being read and commented on... :-)) These are great questions to ask ourselves; thanks for adding them. Thanks, Rhoberta. (I’m thrilled to see this post is still being read and commented on… :-) ) These are great questions to ask ourselves; thanks for adding them.

]]> By: Rhoberta Shaler, PhD http://www.thebridgemaker.com/no-one-is-perfect-%e2%80%93-so-be-kind-to-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-13746 Rhoberta Shaler, PhD Mon, 19 Dec 2011 23:16:48 +0000 http://www.thebridgemaker.com/?p=3491#comment-13746 What if where we are, who we are and what we're doing is perfect at that moment? What standard do we use to measure ourselves by? Who gave us that so-called standard? What makes it "right?" Does it fit who we are at the deeper levels? Trained as a psychologist and mediator, I work with people worldwide on these same issues. That's why the questions come to mind so quickly, I guess. Most of us are so ready to judge others and justify our own behavior, thoughts, fears and evaluations using ideas that there are some ways of being, feeling, thinking and doing that are supposedly "perfect!" Your post may be just the thing that reminds us that we have these freedoms. Thanks for thinking out loud for us, Ali. What if where we are, who we are and what we’re doing is perfect at that moment?
What standard do we use to measure ourselves by? Who gave us that so-called standard?
What makes it “right?”
Does it fit who we are at the deeper levels?

Trained as a psychologist and mediator, I work with people worldwide on these same issues. That’s why the questions come to mind so quickly, I guess.

Most of us are so ready to judge others and justify our own behavior, thoughts, fears and evaluations using ideas that there are some ways of being, feeling, thinking and doing that are supposedly “perfect!”

Your post may be just the thing that reminds us that we have these freedoms. Thanks for thinking out loud for us, Ali.

]]> By: Ali Hale http://www.thebridgemaker.com/no-one-is-perfect-%e2%80%93-so-be-kind-to-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-5701 Ali Hale Tue, 15 Sep 2009 21:38:55 +0000 http://www.thebridgemaker.com/?p=3491#comment-5701 I struggle with patience too! The "measure twice, cut once" rule is often a good one for any sort of practical project... alas, I have to admit I don't always stick to it. I struggle with patience too! The “measure twice, cut once” rule is often a good one for any sort of practical project… alas, I have to admit I don’t always stick to it.

]]> By: Alex Fayle | Someday Syndrome http://www.thebridgemaker.com/no-one-is-perfect-%e2%80%93-so-be-kind-to-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-5693 Alex Fayle | Someday Syndrome Tue, 15 Sep 2009 15:47:50 +0000 http://www.thebridgemaker.com/?p=3491#comment-5693 Patience! I decided long ago that this one word explains why I'm alive in this lifetime: so that my soul can learn patience. This reminds me of how my dad can do construction projects and I can't. I hate measuring three times and taking great care when lining up the saw so that the cut is straight. I'm a dive in a go type, which does not work for activities like construction which if you're going to do it well you need to be near perfect with it... Patience! I decided long ago that this one word explains why I’m alive in this lifetime: so that my soul can learn patience.

This reminds me of how my dad can do construction projects and I can’t. I hate measuring three times and taking great care when lining up the saw so that the cut is straight. I’m a dive in a go type, which does not work for activities like construction which if you’re going to do it well you need to be near perfect with it…

]]> By: Ali Hale http://www.thebridgemaker.com/no-one-is-perfect-%e2%80%93-so-be-kind-to-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-5660 Ali Hale Mon, 14 Sep 2009 13:16:45 +0000 http://www.thebridgemaker.com/?p=3491#comment-5660 Thanks for the comments, all! @Mel - Yes, I've been reading some backlashes against positive thinking recently. I agree it can make us feel worse ("Why can't I just believe my affirmations, darn it" type stuff...) @Charlie - I wonder if it's because you blog about productivity... ;-) @Tim Brownson - Clearly, I'll have to stop recommending you as a life coach and just suggest that people gatecrash your parties. @Marc - Great point about "this too shall pass". It's something I should try to remember more often! @Patricia - I agree that "unique" is a far better word than "perfect"! Thanks for the comments, all!

@Mel – Yes, I’ve been reading some backlashes against positive thinking recently. I agree it can make us feel worse (“Why can’t I just believe my affirmations, darn it” type stuff…)

@Charlie – I wonder if it’s because you blog about productivity… ;-)

@Tim Brownson – Clearly, I’ll have to stop recommending you as a life coach and just suggest that people gatecrash your parties.

@Marc – Great point about “this too shall pass”. It’s something I should try to remember more often!

@Patricia – I agree that “unique” is a far better word than “perfect”!

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