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Love Your Selfie

By on Feb 23, 2014


taking a selfie with a friend

What I am is how I came out. No one’s perfect and you just have to accept your flaws and learn to love yourself. – Kelly Brook

I’m a creature of habit. My morning routine is no exception: Let the dogs out -> Pour a cup of coffee -> Grab my laptop -> Turn on the Today show -> Check email.

Most mornings I’m oblivious to what’s on the show. Today serves more as a source for background noise than a news source. However, the show caught my attention this morning and it changed my routine.

Shifting my focus from my Inbox to the television, the Today anchors were talking about how they feel about their bodies and how they see themselves more holistically. Their comments were candid and courageous. And their message was simple: Learn to love your selfie a little more.

Word of the Year

Selfies are incredibility popular. Everyone from U. S. President Obama to Kim Kardashian is taking them. In fact, Selfie was the 2013 Oxford Dictionary Word of the Year.

But I have never taken selfies until now. The picture collage below is my new selfie collection. Most of the images I use on the Internet include Mary Beth in the picture (Case in point: see the picture I use in my author resource box below). I don’t like seeing pictures of just me.

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My hangups

As a 51-year-old man who experiences success in my relationships and career, I still feel insecure. Here are a few hangups I have about my body image:

  • I think that my nose too big.
  • I’m terrified that I will get the middle-aged gut. Just before stepping into the shower each morning, I inspect myself in the bathroom’s full-length mirror. I peer at my stomach looking for any decrease or increase in size. I think if I get a gut, then my attraction value will go down.
  • I keep my hair cut short so it’s natural wave and curl isn’t noticeable.

Here are the hangups I have about myself on a more holistic level:

  • I think other people are smarter, funnier and cooler than me.
  • I fear that sometimes my life doesn’t matter – like I’m just going through the motions.
  • I’m afraid I’ll run out of things to write about.
My celebrations

But after taking a few selfies, I challenged myself to see what others see – to see my value and to love my selfie a little more, too.Here are the positive things I see about my body image:

  • I still look vibrant, youthful and full of energy.
  • After rejoining the gym before Christmas, I can tell my “gym body” is returning.
  • My smile is still with me.

And here’s what I celebrate about myself:

  • I’m an engaged parent and thoughtful husband.
  • I have the ability to inspire and comfort others.
  • I make a positive difference everyday.
A New Habit

Taking a few selfies and then honestly considering both my hangups and celebrations was a good self-esteem re-acquaintance exercise.

Too often, I approach the day with a “what do I have to do” mindset and not a “what can I do for myself” attitude. By taking the time to snap a few selfies helped me see me. While I may see things I don’t love, I also see plenty of things that I do love.

Maybe that’s the real value of selfies anyway. Something like: World, here I am warts and all and I am still beautiful.

Love Your Selfie

What about you? What do you love about yourself? Please share your Selfies. Here’s how:

The BridgeMaker Founder Alex Blackwell is the author of Letting Go: 25 True Stories of Peace, Hope and Surrender. Join the community to connect, share and inspire: Twitter | Facebook | More Posts

  • MaKenzie “Mary Kay”

    What a wonderful piece! I think all of us could benefit from this type of selfie!

  • This is a wonderful reminder, Alex to stop being so hard on ourselves and to love ourselves for who we are. Great Selfies! Thank you!

    • You are too kind Cathy because I’m not sure how good the selfies are, but thanks for you encouragement!

  • Martine Joseph

    Thanks for such a brilliant and cool post Alex! I feel so inspired by your courage and honesty. Thanks for being you!

    • So glad you liked the post Martine. And thank you for making me feel safe with sharing!

  • So happy you are beginning to see you as the rest of the world does Alex…a wonderful, warm, kind and tenderhearted human being. Your post encourages us all.

    • Thanks for the kind words Elle and sincere support. You are a true encourager and I appreciate you very much!

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