Comments on: Living with the Complicated Glass http://www.thebridgemaker.com/living-with-the-complicated-glass/ Simple paths to positive change Tue, 07 Feb 2012 23:51:14 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Jodi http://www.thebridgemaker.com/living-with-the-complicated-glass/comment-page-1/#comment-13864 Jodi Thu, 05 Jan 2012 16:43:37 +0000 http://www.thenext45years.com/2008/07/living-with-the-complicated-glass.html#comment-13864 This blog has helped me alot. I was drinking every day to the point of passing out and not even knowing if I fought with my spouse, what time I went to bed or even if I ate dinner. I went about 25 days then drank then like another week then drank this pattern went on for awhile but the holidays got me. I drank 3 days in a row at thanksgiving then between thanksgiving and Christmas I drank like once a week typically fri night and drank Christmas and new years but now I am trying to get back on track and its been 5 days since jan 1. Im happy because atleast I know im not a alcoholic and after the initial 20 some days now the sober days are easy and pass a whole faster then the first ones. Thank you for the incentive This blog has helped me alot. I was drinking every day to the point of passing out and not even knowing if I fought with my spouse, what time I went to bed or even if I ate dinner. I went about 25 days then drank then like another week then drank this pattern went on for awhile but the holidays got me. I drank 3 days in a row at thanksgiving then between thanksgiving and Christmas I drank like once a week typically fri night and drank Christmas and new years but now I am trying to get back on track and its been 5 days since jan 1. Im happy because atleast I know im not a alcoholic and after the initial 20 some days now the sober days are easy and pass a whole faster then the first ones. Thank you for the incentive

]]> By: Clive Holland http://www.thebridgemaker.com/living-with-the-complicated-glass/comment-page-1/#comment-13223 Clive Holland Mon, 05 Dec 2011 11:29:01 +0000 http://www.thenext45years.com/2008/07/living-with-the-complicated-glass.html#comment-13223 Hi Alex, I posted my own struggle with alcohol on your blog around a year ago. I too didn't make it to 100 days. I have struggled with feelings of shame and thinking myself a failure when going back to drinking. But here's what I think now. Perhaps the notion that you are an alcoholic if you can't say no is wrong. Perhaps the idea that one drink will set you back on a road to ruin is more harmful than good. Isn't that just reinforcing the fact that you are unable to exercise self control. You made 50+ days without a drink and you beat it. That means you won and you can always win. Everyone who says no for just one day wins a small battle each and every day. There is no need for many people like you or I to stop completely...just control it. You and many others have proved it can be done. Thanks for the blog, it's really helpful to see how others feel about this issue. Cheers mate,(remember this is just an English way of saying..see ya!) Clive Hi Alex,
I posted my own struggle with alcohol on your blog around a year ago. I too didn’t make it to 100 days. I have struggled with feelings of shame and thinking myself a failure when going back to drinking. But here’s what I think now. Perhaps the notion that you are an alcoholic if you can’t say no is wrong. Perhaps the idea that one drink will set you back on a road to ruin is more harmful than good. Isn’t that just reinforcing the fact that you are unable to exercise self control. You made 50+ days without a drink and you beat it. That means you won and you can always win. Everyone who says no for just one day wins a small battle each and every day. There is no need for many people like you or I to stop completely…just control it. You and many others have proved it can be done. Thanks for the blog, it’s really helpful to see how others feel about this issue.

Cheers mate,(remember this is just an English way of saying..see ya!)
Clive

]]> By: Alex Blackwell http://www.thebridgemaker.com/living-with-the-complicated-glass/comment-page-1/#comment-11929 Alex Blackwell Fri, 02 Sep 2011 01:20:36 +0000 http://www.thenext45years.com/2008/07/living-with-the-complicated-glass.html#comment-11929 <b>Kris</b>, thank for helping see the complicated glass as being half full; not half empty. Blessings to you. Kris, thank for helping see the complicated glass as being half full; not half empty. Blessings to you.

]]> By: Kris http://www.thebridgemaker.com/living-with-the-complicated-glass/comment-page-1/#comment-11927 Kris Fri, 02 Sep 2011 00:20:53 +0000 http://www.thenext45years.com/2008/07/living-with-the-complicated-glass.html#comment-11927 I am indeed inspired and invigorated by this the comments posted here. Too often one approaches goals with an "all or nothing attitude" and it invariably fails, and becomes "nothing". We have to allow ourselves to be human, to have frailties and weaknesses, and to also congratulate ourselves on our successes, however minor-- these should be recognized cummulatively. 53 days is considerably better than 0, so I commend you and recognize this as an accomplishment worth of emulating. I am indeed inspired and invigorated by this the comments posted here. Too often one approaches goals with an “all or nothing attitude” and it invariably fails, and becomes “nothing”. We have to allow ourselves to be human, to have frailties and weaknesses, and to also congratulate ourselves on our successes, however minor– these should be recognized cummulatively. 53 days is considerably better than 0, so I commend you and recognize this as an accomplishment worth of emulating.

]]> By: Alex Blackwell http://www.thebridgemaker.com/living-with-the-complicated-glass/comment-page-1/#comment-9714 Alex Blackwell Sun, 23 Jan 2011 12:45:25 +0000 http://www.thenext45years.com/2008/07/living-with-the-complicated-glass.html#comment-9714 One thing I do Lindsay is I don't drink during the work week, just on the weekends. This balance seems comfortable for me. One thing I do Lindsay is I don’t drink during the work week, just on the weekends. This balance seems comfortable for me.

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