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Letting Go: 5 Truths about Surrendering

By on Sep 02, 2012


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Some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it is letting go. – Herman Hesse

At times, life may feel like it is spinning out of control. You feel completely powerless over the circumstances being handed to you. During times like these, it may be easier to give up. But you do have another choice – you can choose to let go, surrender control and reclaim the life that belongs just to you.

Perhaps the greatest contradiction is realizing when you surrender control to the Universe you are in a better position to get what you need to fulfill your life’s purpose. Surrendering isn’t about giving up; it’s about letting go. Surrendering isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of strength.

Surrendering allows you to feel less stressed, overwhelmed and anxious. It creates mental space to be present in the moment.

Take a moment and consider this question: What do you need to surrender today? It is a relationship, a business venture, or a person you lost in death? Is it a medical prognosis, a painful memory, or the idea of having the perfect life? Do you need to surrender a past failure, a thought or stress?

Surrendering control is hard to do because the need for control is rooted in fear. The uneasiness of not having direct control over what happens is frustrating. Even when the warning signs are clear, you continue to think if you keep trying harder, if you keep doing everything right; if you can just get one step closer to perfection, then you will have want you want.

When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. – Lao Tzu

Unfortunately, the universe doesn’t work like that. Instead, the Universe gives you exactly what you need. The sooner you realize pushing back against the inevitable only makes you more anxious; the sooner you can go about the business of living your life according to the plan the Universe has for you.

Letting go has been difficult for me, too. The thought of allowing control to a higher power was terrifying. By letting go, I was giving up – or so I thought. Today, I have learned if I’m going to have the life that has been planned for me; I need the Universe to help me find it. Today, I have learned these five truths about surrendering.

These five truths don’t contemplate the absence of self-responsibility; they actually encourage it. The five truths will help you understand that it’s your responsibility to follow your personal destiny – no matter how out of control it may feel at times.

  1. Pain doesn’t have to define you
    Holding on to the pain only keeps you stuck in a place somewhere in the past. The pain no longer has to define who you are. It’s time to let go of pain and welcome confidence, strength and peace into your life.
  2. What you pay attention to grows
    Even though you may not be responsible for everything that happens to you, you are responsible for how you choose to react to what happens to you. The expression like attracts like is especially true when it comes to positive and negative emotions. If you chose to remain positive, then positive results are likely to occur. Alternatively, if you decide to be negative and critical, you can expect more negative circumstances to happen.
  3. Begin today, right now
    There is no better time to live your heart’s passion than right now. When the nudge you feel is beginning to pull you in the direction of your life’s purpose and your inner wisdom is telling you to go; then trust and let go.
  4. Open the floodgates of hope
    When you open the floodgates of hope and refuse to allow fear to defeat our faith, you are better able to surrender your problems, ask for help and then follow your heart’s desire.
  5. Forgiveness is a form of letting go, but different
    The purpose of forgiveness is not to let the person who harmed you off the hook, the purpose of forgiveness is to end the grief it has cost you. Don’t just let go, forgive and truly surrender the feelings of anger and pain. This may seem difficult, almost impossible, until you attempt to do it.

The BridgeMaker Founder Alex Blackwell is the author of Letting Go: 25 True Stories of Peace, Hope and Surrender. Join the community to connect, share and inspire: Twitter | Facebook | More Posts

  • When Kundalini starts moving there is no other option left other than letting go and surrender and accept the reality !

  • Noel

    Love what you said about “what you pay attention to grows” because most of the time, this is what exactly keeps us from letting go. We dwell so much on the pain we felt in the past and we refuse to move forward. I’ve learned this through personal experience. I;ve learned that if you refuse to let go, that bitterness inside you will keep you from being happy. Thanks for this article Alex!

    • Your are most welcome Noel. I’m happy you found it helpful.

  • nikky44

    “Begin today, right now” I really must start to move on. I need to begin today and let go of the past in order to start a new life.

  • Patricia

    It amazes me when a number of bloggers are all writing on the same path/journey….then again, I feel like I am finding those words which are supportive of my efforts and energies right now – this is so well done and I am sharing it.

    • Thanks for reading Patrica, and for sharing. I’m glad the article touched your heart.

  • Galen Pearl

    My word of the year last year was yield. I thought of it much in the same way as you describe surrender. Lately, I have been struggling to let go of something that happened a few weeks ago. I keep going back to it, reliving it, thinking about the consequences of it, trying to control what happens now. I see myself doing it, but it is still hard to let go. Seems like I have to do it over and over.

    Same with forgiveness. Again and again. One thing that helps me with that is shifting out of a victim/wrongdoer model. Dropping the labels.

    Great post. Thanks!

    • No labels and no judgements Galen – for you or anyone else. Let it go and then let grace fall over whatever needs to be healed. My thoughts and prayers are with you.