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Let Go, Simplify and Breathe

By on Sep 01, 2014


letting go and breathing

If you want to make God laugh, just tell Him your plans. – Woody Allen

It’s good to be back, writing again.

After stepping away for the summer, I felt the nudge to return to The BridgeMaker. My time away wasn’t about losing my passion – it was about doing what I had to do to keep my head above water.

Need to Breathe

Do you know the feeling? The days when you feel like your head is just below the water line and you’re doing everything you can to push upward to breathe, but the life-giving air is just out of reach.

Frustration builds, making the task more difficult. That’s when anxiety takes over; pushing you further down.

To give myself a chance to get back above the water line, I had to let go of a few things. I started letting go of the things that weren’t necessary for my need to breathe. Things like trying to be all things to all people; trying to be perfect with my responsibilities; and trying to give more than I received.

Perhaps I went too far with my purging, but I needed to clear out the space so I could re-fill it with things that were healthier for me. Things like taking better care of me, having a shorter to-do list and giving myself a break more often.

Finding simplicity

In this process, I found simplicity feels better than the need to please and overachieve. Turning to simplicity gives me the energy to lunge above the water line when it feels like the tide is coming in too fast.

But finding, and then hanging onto the simple things is a choice I need to make each day. Choices like…

  • When I feel tired…I will rest.
  • When I want something…I will ask.
  • When I feel inspired…I will write.
  • When my heart leaps…I will love.
  • When there is too much to do…I will choose.
  • When I miss someone…I will call.
  • When I want to be understood…I will explain myself.
  • When I have a question…I will ask.
  • When I like something…I will say it.
  • When I don’t like something…I will say that, too.
  • When my passion swells…I will pursue it.
  • When I feel anxious about where I’m going…I will keep learning to let go, and just breathe.
Making the Choices Easier

It’s time to reopen this bridge so I can continue my journey. Just liked when I closed the bridge in June, I have no idea where’s it taking me, but I know there’s plan created for me and this bridge is part of the path.

How did Woody Allen put it? Something like, “If you want to make God laugh, just tell Him your plans.”

Letting go of the need to control my journey makes things easier. And putting my trust in a plan created for me doesn’t rob me of the choices I mentioned earlier – it makes the choices easier.

Always trying to plan and control everything was the biggest thing keeping me just below the water line.

But learning to let go of the things I can’t control is helping me return to the days when faith, hope and an eager spirit swelled inside of me with such an amazing force that I had to share it through my words. I miss those days, but I miss the person I was in those days more

So, it’s back to writing, sharing and trusting God’s plan for me. To do those things, the time away has taught me that my peace is found by letting go, simplifying… and giving myself permission to breathe.

The BridgeMaker Founder Alex Blackwell is the author of Letting Go: 25 True Stories of Peace, Hope and Surrender. Join the community to connect, share and inspire: Twitter | Facebook | More Posts

  • Alison

    I’m so happy you’re back Alex – you bring me lots of peace 🙂

    • It’s great to be back Alison! Thanks so much for sharing your warm encouragement.

  • Pat Ruppel

    Hi Alex — I can truly relate to your story. It’s been an interesting summer, for sure, and I feel like I’m been catching my breath, too, while traveling down a similar path. Isn’t it ironic how it seems like your course has taken a different direction since you published your book, “Letting Go — 25 True Stories of Peace, Hope and Surrender”. You must have made God laugh. I’m glad to see you back on the bridge and writing again – fresh and inspired. 🙂

    • So true, and a divine irony I didn’t consider until now. And it’s true, that I must make God laugh every day. But I’m glad He loves me enough to pay attention to what I’m doing. It’s great see you here again Pat. I appreciate your longstanding support more than you know!

      • Pat Ruppel

        Same here, Alex, in making God laugh and glad he’s watching over us. I like it, too, having a longstanding connection with support. It means a lot. Take care and happy Wednesday, my friend — bre-e-e-a-a-the! 🙂

  • Ah, so good to see you back again – and catching your breath. 🙂 Wonderful!

  • Sandra Pawula

    I’m so happy you are back, Alex and filled with faith, hope, and eager spirit. I’m trying to follow your lead and let go of all that is unnecessary. Much love to you and appreciate for your insightful writing.

    • Hi Sandra,

      Like I wrote above, I’m learning to let go of what’s unnecessary. For me, it’s a daily choice, but one that’s worth it. Thanks so much for your warm welcome back!

  • Bethany @ Journey to Ithaca

    I just found my way here and definitely will be back. I took about 6 months off from my blog, so that I could refocus, and it was such a delight to find everybody (as well as some new friends) right there waiting when I was ready to return. 🙂

    Bethany @ Journey to Ithaca
    http://ourjourneytoithaca.com

    • Bethany,

      Periods of rest are important so we can regroup and refresh. I’m happy you were able to experience a period of renewal, too.

    • Pat Ruppel

      Hi Bethany — it’s so good to see you’ve found Alex. No doubt you’ve come to the right place for inspiration and guidance. Take care, my friend. 🙂