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Just the Good Stuff

By on Feb 08, 2015


And in her smile I see something more beautiful than the stars. – Beth Revis

With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, Mary Beth and I are faced with our yearly dilemma – how do we want to celebrate it?

My wife and I made a pact several years ago that we wouldn’t be influenced to give each other the obligatory card or the required roses. Instead, we try to be spontaneous with how we show our love on the the other 364 days of the year. Like roses on a normal Tuesday in November or a card left on the bathroom sink sometime in April.

If you and your partner are like us and want to find less ordinary ways to express your love on February 14, try observing the day by sharing only the good stuff about each other.

The Good Stuff

Here’s how it works: On Valentine’s Day (or on any day you choose) only comment, remark or acknowledge the good stuff about your partner. No criticism, pestering or eye rolling is allowed.

Remind your wife or husband about their amazing talents or tell your partner how she is making a difference. You could also let your lover know what you admire most about him. The point is to take one day and focus only on what you love about your partner – just the good stuff.

When the day is over, your partner will be filled more confidence and self-worth and you may find yourself falling in love all over again because you took the time to remember why you fell in love in the first place.

The Good Stuff I Love

Need some inspiration to get started? Here’s some of the good stuff I love about my wife, Mary Beth:

– I love how connected she is to our children and knows what they need, when they need it.
– I love how Mary Beth helps other people discover better lives for themselves.
– I love how she hums show tunes from our daughter’s musical performances.
– I love how she’s the biggest fan of my writing.
– I love how Mary Beth says, “I love you,” before falling asleep.
– I love how my wife looks in blue jeans.
– I love how she is adjusting beautifully to a new role she loves – being a grandmother!
– I love how my wife can take disjointed leftovers and make a delicious meal.
– I love how she has conversations with Rascal and Riley (our dogs).
– I love how my wife can repair anything that breaks.
– I love how she knows when I need a hug or a kick in the ass, or both.
– I love how my wife takes care of my heart – medically, spiritually and romantically.
– I love how Mary Beth has been my best friend for more than 30 years.

Share #thegoodstuff

If you want to inspire others to take a day to see only on the good stuff too, please share what you love about your partner on Twitter and then use the hashtag #thegoodstuff.

The BridgeMaker Founder Alex Blackwell is the author of Letting Go: 25 True Stories of Peace, Hope and Surrender. Join the community to connect, share and inspire: Twitter | Facebook | More Posts

  • Balroop Singh

    I have read such a loving and honest article on ‘love’ after a long long time! Thank you for understanding love so well…your words have tugged at my heart!

    • You are most welcome Balroop! Thank you for reading and sharing your heart.

  • Becky

    I love this article and I love what you love about Mary Beth! Love you both!

    • Mary Beth and I are so happy you are a part of our lives – thanks for your continued friendship and support Becky!

  • Sandra Pawula

    What a terrific idea, Alex. I’m in! Only the good stuff!

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