Why do we make happiness so exhausting? – Lori Deschene
You may notice each post on The BridgeMaker begins with a quote. I do this to give you, the reader, a sense of what the post will be about. My favorite place to browse for inspirational quotes is Tiny Buddha, by Lori Deschene.
But Lori’s blog is more than a place to find quotes – it’s a place where my soul is refreshed by her wisdom, and by the comfort of her words.
So, when Lori released her new book, Tiny Buddha, Simple Wisdom for Life’s Hard Questions I was eager to read it. I wanted to learn more about her journey and what life experiences have contributed to her remarkable enlightenment.
Lori’s book doesn’t disappoint. She shares in a transparent and almost vulnerable style. The book resonates with a rich authenticity that is as moving as it is helpful.
I’m honored Lori agreed to an interview, and offered two free copies of her beautiful book Tiny Buddha, Simple Wisdom for Life’s Hard Questions.
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1. What is the inspiration behind the book; why did you write it?
I wanted to write this book because it touches upon almost all of the themes that writers (and I) explore on the community blog at tinybuddha.com.
I’ve published stories from more than 175 contributors, and I’ve read comments from thousands of people who also communicate what they’re going through and struggling with. They always come back to the same universal issues—letting go of pain, finding meaning in life, choosing happiness, creating positive change, maintaining healthy relationships, living life to the fullest, and accepting uncertainty.
I thought it would be interesting to ask questions about these topics on Twitter and then shape the book around those insights—so that’s exactly what I did.
I also shared my own experiences in grappling with these big issues. I did that for two reasons.
For one, I wanted anyone who can relate to my experiences and struggles to know they are not alone. And secondly, I hoped my honesty would encourage other people to look within and be honest about how they’ve gotten in their own way and what they need to do to get out of it.
There aren’t really any concrete answers to the hardest questions in life. We can stress about that and cause ourselves a lot of pain, or we can identify the possibilities that empower us as individuals and then find the courage to act on them today.
I hope my book helps readers do just that.
2. Who should read the book?
Well, I’m clearly a little biased, but I would say anyone with a pulse! If you’ve struggled to create happiness, meaning, and authentic connection in life, Tiny Buddha, Simple Wisdom for Life’s Hard Questions may help you identify what you need to do to create positive change, starting right now.
3. You writing style is transparent and personal. What experience has contributed the most to your passion for writing and helping others?
I started writing from a very young age, and I’ve always written vulnerably. Writing about my personal experiences helps me makes sense of the world, and it also gives me the sense that I can do something positive with every experience—even the ones that might have been challenging—since sharing them helps other people.
I find that writing authentically also helps me foster self-awareness, which I’ve learned is the most important thing for my peace and happiness. When I am willing to be honest not just about my past, but about my internal blocks, I am better able to move past them.
This is why I write candidly and personally: It helps me, and I have a sense that it helps other people help themselves.
4. Please share the book’s impact with one of your readers.
Sure! I’ve been really enjoying reading the emails and Amazon reviews that readers have written, letting me know how my book has helped them. As I know you know, there’s no better feeling than knowing you’d made a positive difference in someone’s life.
There’s one Amazon review that really jumped out at me:
There is NOTHING tiny about this book. I ordered it a few months ago, after joining Tiny Buddha’s Facebook page. At that time, I was embarking, (very reluctantly), on a series of life-changes, much like the author Lori Deschene.
I find her writing style earnest, poignant, humble, and filled with a perspective that offers hope, courage, and even excitement regarding the often scary topic of change. Her chapters offer wise insight and light into pain, happiness, love, and possibilities which literally reached out, grabbed me by the shoulders, and shook me to the core.
Reading her sage stories, (punctuated by quotes from her many wise Twitter followers) made her messages real, and therefore, obtainable. Unlike the plethora of books out there that make personal growth seem like the Holy Grail, Lori has distilled a series of hefty topics down to their sweetest essence.
Lori’s insight is part and parcel to me finding the strength to embrace and nurture life rather than run and hide from it. Lori writes, “We can take almost anything that hurts and recycle into something good, once we are ready to learn from it…this all depends on the most important question: are you ready to be free?” If you are, order Tiny Buddha immediately, if not sooner.
This is why I write, and I’m so grateful for the opportunity to do it!
Read more about Tiny Buddha, Simple Wisdom for Life’s Hard Questions on Amazon.