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How to Face and Erase Your Fears

By on Jan 10, 2012

If we did all the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves. – Thomas Edison

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Everyone struggles with fear.

It is healthy to admit when you are afraid, worried, or anxious. To do so requires strength.

You will never get rid of fear.

If you are alive you have fear. You have two choices. You can deny your fear and fail to take action. Or you can face it and do what it takes to dissolve it.

One choice brings misery. The other brings happiness. It’s that simple.

I grew up on an 88 acre produce farm with nine siblings. We were required to begin working in the fields when were five years old. We worked in both good and bad weather, before and after school, and on Sundays and holidays.

We worked nine months a year.

On the days we weren’t planting, weeding, watering or harvesting, our fruits and vegetables, we were at the Farmers Market selling it.

My siblings and I would be dropped off with two trucks of produce at 5:30 a.m. We were told it needed to be sold by 6 p.m. when my father picked us up.

We did what we were told, we succeeded.

When I was very young, some customers frightened me. I would help them but not say much. Over time, it became easier and I learned how to be friendly, make jokes and have fun.

My siblings and I became very skilled. It wouldn’t be unusual to find us in charge, in the fields or at the market by the age of 13.

We day dreamed of running away and finding jobs where we got paid by the hour. We weren’t happy with our small allowance.

It wasn’t until I was married and on my own, that I realized how many rewards I reaped from life on the farm.

I learned how to grow food and to love nature and all of its glory.

I learned how to show up, problem solve, and work as part of a team. I knew how to keep repeat customers satisfied.

The biggest gift was that I learned how to work hard, overcome fear and do what was required.

With this knowledge, I started my first successful business when I was 18 years old. I’ve always been an entrepreneur.

Don’t delay your dreams

Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. ~ Steve Jobs

Remember our time here is limited, our days are numbered. We are not immortal.

It’s time to let go of our fears and seize the day. It’s time to take responsibility and live full-out. Nobody is coming to rescue you.

Go out, take focused action, be busy

Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy. ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

Develop courage by taking action. Dare to make a difference and use your talent and gifts to make the world a better place.

Things will go wrong. So what?

You’ll make mistakes. So what?

You will be rejected. So what?

Keep going, ask for help, find support, and be willing to do what it takes.

Enjoy life

Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature…Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. ~ Helen Keller

Don’t miss your chance to live life with overflowing joy and wild adventure. Have fun, travel, and be spontaneous. It doesn’t have to be expensive.

My daughter Kristy was born without a right hand. She participates in marathons and triathlons.

Turn your fear into excitement. There is no excuse to sit on the sidelines of life. Do what brings you joy.

Chase your fears

Not to dream more boldly may turn out to be, in view of present realities, simply irresponsible. ~ George Leonard

Safety is an illusion. Go after your fears like your dreams depend on them.

If you want to learn how to speak in public, join Toastmasters. If you fear flying, travel. If you fear making sales calls, put them first on your to-do list.

If you want something different, you have to do something different.

Expect to succeed. Replace doubt and fear with hard work, focus, and persistence.

Never give up

The darkest night is often the bridge to the brightest tomorrow. ~Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Life isn’t easy and it isn’t fair. Don’t compare yourself to others. Resist whining and complaining.

Learn to take one day at a time.

Keep your eye on the prize. Concentrate on it. See it in your mind’s eye. See it benefiting everyone. Give yourself a break but never give up.

Take a leap of faith

When I am afraid, I open my heart and let the love dissolve the fear. ~ Louise Hay

Release fear and control and replace it with faith and trust. Learn to have faith and trust, in yourself, in others, and in the world.

Trust that you are being taken care of and supported on the way to your dream.

The more you trust in the process of life, the more life will uphold you, guide you, and shower you with goodness.

Be committed to expressing your greatness!

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Tess Marshall is the founder of The Bold Life, where she blogs and inspires people to do great things. If you are tired of being stuck in fear and want to step into your greatness, click here to learn more about her e-course 30 Days to Bold.

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  • Good Morning,
    I was so pleased to find a site specifically on fear. We all battle our demons; sometimes we win and sometimes we hide. I find hiding useless, although I do it time and time again, but reading encouraging words brings the warrior out from hiding. Thanks for coaxing the warrior out from hiding this morning.
    I’ve had a phobia for over twenty years now and it’s been work keeping it at bay. I believe that some day I will finally slay my dragon. I don’t know how and I don’t know when but I do know that it will happen.
    Keep up the great work.

  • Marlene

    This was such a beautiful article. It’s amazing how everything comes into our lives at the right time. I’ve been suffering with panic disorder for a year and it’s been the scariest, darkest and most wonderful year of my life. I can’t say it’s been easy, I’m still going through therapy and facing my fears everyday. It’s a constant battle, but what you resist persists so I’m learning to put my world in God’s hands and enjoy the journey. I got a job two days ago, something my anxiety-ridden self was so frightened of. I’m still scared , anxious and stressed but I’m working through it by giving Love to all that I do.

    What’s really kept me going is the poem “Invictus”. Whenever I am about to cry and feel as though living and challenging myself is not worth it, I remind myself that, “Out of the night that covers me….I thank whatever gods may be/For my unconquerable soul…../I am the master of my fate:I am the captain of my soul.”

    I have come to a startling and exciting conclusion; life will never be easy, but it can be fulfilling and invigorating and nothing quite like anyone could ever imagine.

    I’m so so happy I read your article, today was really rough for me and this was the bright light in a day basked in grey.

    Lots of love and luck to you and your endeavours!

  • Oh dear Tess, you are preaching to the choir with this beautiful post!
    “If you want something different, you have to do something different.”
    Yes! So true and so important.
    I am knee deep in all of my fears at the moment – wading through the muck in the hopes of moving forward into my dreams. So while I am not quite at the point where I have completely overcome them, I am in them – aware of them – and pressing on in spite of them.
    I am saying goodbye to a me that no longer feels like me and saying hello to the me that I long to be.
    Thank you, Alex, for sharing Tess’s words. Thank you, Tess, for writing them. You both are amazing souls.

  • Zandile

    Hi Tess,

    This post could not have come at a better time – thank you! I have just made the decision to ‘go bold’ in 2012 – starting with cutting my hair on Monday this week to reveal and embrace my natural beauty. In the last couple of months I came face to face with the realisation that I am not completely happy with my life but I have been living in quiet desperation waiting for change to happen because I actually fear success. I cannot believe that in my subconscious all along I believed that I’m not worthy of the same things that I long for! Well, I’m done sabotaging myself now. And all of this self discovery wouldnt have happened in the absence of great writers like yourself and Alex who have guided me on my journey of healing and remembrance. Never doubt the impact your writing is having on people around the world that you’ll probably never meet! 🙂

    Yours in gratitude