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How to change the world and find the missing socks

By on Oct 24, 2012

There is eternal influence and power in motherhood. – Julie B. Beck

For Mothers

You all know the drill. You hear the mommy mantra in your heads; get up, pack lunches, wake kids, feed, find missing sock, drive, drop off, work, pick up, feed, drive, gymnastics, wipe tears, soccer, drive, feed, blow noses, do homework, hug, kiss, rinse, repeat.

And now…you’re supposed to fit change the world into that list of to dos. (I can hear your eyes roll as you scrape dried apple juice off the kitchen counter and wonder when you’ll ever get those molding wet clothes moved into the dryer.) Thanks for something else to feel guilty about missy blog author lady.

Sending your heart out

Someone once said that having a child is agreeing to no longer carry your heart inside your own chest. You send your heart out into the world with your children every day and hope they, come back in one piece.

Having children makes us more vulnerable…and therefore more susceptible to the problems of the world. Our children will grow up and need a safe place to live and raise their own families. So to top off this aching vulnerability and all the responsibilities, we’ve got an obligation to make the world a better place.

But how on earth can we make a difference?! There is laundry to do, groceries to buy, houses to clean, children to feed and raise and those darn blasted missing socks…

Simple; we start in our own households. It’s the best place for our influence to be received.

As mothers, it’s up to us to set the tone. And that tone can carry from your home, to your neighborhood, to your community and outward. If we mothers can make some small differences everyday, we CAN change the world.

Here’s how: Focus on the little things:

  • Establish a time for saying Thank You. Help your child, during a meal or before bed to express their gratitude for 3 or 4 things. You go first to set the example.
  • Show them your sacred self by reserving a few minutes each day to be silent. You may call it prayer or meditation or just a special breathing time. Invite your child to join in. Even if they don’t or can’t participate (the only time my 2 year old sat still was when he was asleep) they will feel the effects of this practice on you and them. 5 minutes a day is all it will take…no joke.
  • When you interact with others (especially in front of your children) look everyone in the eye, smile, be kind, open doors, give complements, help out where and when you can. You are training your children by example. Be present.
  • Reduce, reuse, recycle. Most of us do this already-but talk about it; explain how important it is for us to be a part of saving our planet…this can lead to much bigger discussions.
  • Always lead by example. No one will have the sort of influence you will have on your child. Be the best person you can be in front of your child.

But kids don’t stay with you if you do it right. It’s the one job where, the better you are, the more surely you won’t be needed in the long run. – Barbara Kingsolver, Pigs In Heaven

Yes. It’s true. They do leave.

But imagine what the world would be like if each and every one we send out into the world spends time each day saying thank you, having moments of silent contemplation, radiating kindness and giving of themselves freely, caring for our mother earth and in turn become a new generation of wonderful parents leading by the loving example we set.

Now imagine those children as our future leaders…

See…you can change the world…and find the socks… or just change the world and forget the socks. Socks are over-rated anyway.

Elisa Van Arnam is a mother, wife and co-creator of SoulKu; an inspirational card and gift company dedicated to empowering people and making it easy to Be the CHANGE. Read more about SoulKu or visit the SoulKu Shares quote and picture blog.

  • I’m the father of three girls (two of them twins), and I can absolutely identify with wanting to help them succeed. Thanks for the tips!

    • Elisa Van Arnam

      I’m so happy that you read the post and are obviously actively involved in your girls’ lives. We need you! Thank you!!!

  • This is a great post and good words to live by. Somewhere around 4th grade I began to tell my son something every morning as I dropped him off at school. I told him to remember whose child he was and that he was loved. I had no idea if the words were heard or if I just said them to make me feel better but I said them anyway. Some time later I overheard a playground conversation between him and his friends. He was telling them that no matter what he was first with his mom and he knew he was loved more than anything. It is amazing how simple words can change the lives of others, especially our loved ones. Thank you for sharing your beautiful post.

    • Elisa Van Arnam


      That is absolutely beautiful! Don’t you love it when you get that kind of affirmation? You are so on the right track! Keep it up…let’s grow amazing, wonder-full, confident little beings! You are changing the world!