The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in. – Morrie Schwartz
Love lives at your core.
It defines how you see the world, how you see others and more important love defines how you see yourself. Love is the compass that points to your true North.
However, love’s true North can sometimes appear beyond your reach and too hard to find even when you are holding the map. The way to love can feel nebulous, complex and even treacherous at times. Love is the great paradox in life: You want to find more of it but sometimes you are afraid of discovering its increasingly amazing power.
To bring more love into your life you must be willing to understand its true meaning and then be willing to recognize the meaning you bring to love.
What would you do with more love?
Begin by asking what you would do with more love in your life. Is it to fill a place of emptiness? It is a gift you want to give yourself? Or is it to strengthen and improve certain relationships?
Love is best experienced when its purpose is clear.
Love is a commitment to something bigger than anyone of us. When we ask for more love we are also assuming the responsibility to care for it, nurture it and to respect it. We are vowing to put love in a better place than where we found it.
When this commitment is established, love begins its work.
Eight simple ways to bring more love into your life
To bring more love into your life, you may need to draw a new map or shake your compass a little if it’s stuck. Finding new ways to let more love in your life can be simple to do when your heart is ready for the journey:
- Acknowledge the walls holding love back.
Often what keeps you from bringing more love into your life is you. Step back and notice the barriers that are holding love back. Are you withholding love from others because of jealously, spite or a lack of emotion? Do you see love as a burden or something unimportant? Do you allow self-love to flow through you?
- Change and grow.
Love is not static. People change; relationships change and you change, too. Becoming aware of the changing needs of the people in your life and then changing how you extend love to meet these needs will allow love to grow.
- Determine what you are willing to release to experience more love.
Consider what it would feel like to let go of past expectations, rules or experiences of love. In the place where regret once lived, fill this space with hope and imagine what your life could look like from this point forward. Let go of the past and take hold of love.
- Stop controlling love.
Love knows no boundaries and is limitless in its potential. The idea of controlling love is temporary at best. To bring more love into your life you must be willing to surrender to it. Put down your anxiety and allow love to fill your life on its schedule; not yours.
- Imagine what love looks like to you.
Close your eyes and feel love spread over you. What does it look like to you? Is it peace, security and wonder? Does it look like loving your partner or child unconditionally? Does it look like repairing a part of your past? Or does it look like having the confidence to love you a little more each day?
- Recognize your expectations of love.
Love often disappoints when your expectations are unrealistic. Love can be the bridge that brings two people together, but the bridge looks different each day. Some days it is paved with passion and on other days it is filled with a simple, subtle knowing.
- Practice giving.
Love grows in abundance by how much you are willing to give – so practice giving. Donate to the disadvantaged, find ways to help someone in need and give your time and attention to worthwhile causes. Find ways to make your partner’s day a little easier and be fully present for your children. Practice giving more of yourself. With practice, love will grow in strength.
- Know what’s temporary.
Shortcuts in love may feel good, but they don’t last. Instant gratification isn’t really love at all. Commit to the journey of learning how you can bring more love to others. Resist the temptation of doing what feels good at the moment and replace it with what you really want for the long term.
Finding true North
Love helps you find your way. The more love you bring into your life the clearer the path becomes. You can surround yourself with possessions, excuses or by clinging to the past, but in the end, nothing trumps love.
Love is the healer; the giver of abundance and the creator of peace. Love comes from a place not of this world and will be with you forever. You are equipped with an especially-prepared device that allows more love to flow in your life – your heart.
By sharing, giving and then receiving love, more of it will come into your life and will continue pointing to your true North.