How to be more Self-Loving with Yourself and Others | The BridgeMaker

How to be more Self-Loving with Yourself and Others

By on Jul 06, 2011


People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within. – Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

Love is our natural state and one that powerfully connects us all in Oneness.

As we move into this new Golden Age it is important for all of us to release the patterns and pain from the past that separate us from our Divinity and our destiny.

Love is the bridge.

Love transforms.

Love liberates.

To truly divinely love another, we must love ourselves first; to draw from that inner love and share it with another is an inside out experience.

Cultivating self-love and being a vehicle from which love flows can be one of the greatest gifts you give to the world. Self-love, compassion, forgiveness are often qualities we withhold from ourselves without realizing it.

Embracing self-love teaches others how to love and respect you and attract people who will value appreciate who you are. We teach people how to treat and value us.

If you are a parent, what is the legacy you are teaching your kids about self-love and self-esteem? What is the message you are communicating to others? Is it time to change your message?

Whenever you make changes, the people in your life are affected and they may not always appreciate the shifts they see in you and respond negatively.

And also remember that by being true to who you are and modeling the courage to be real and authentic gives the people in your life permission to do the same.

The greatest gift you can share with others is love and it first begins with loving yourself!

The question is:

Do you have the courage to love yourself enough to be who you are meant to be and what you are here to do?

One of the ways I love myself is committing to my spiritual practices daily. Creating sacred time to be in communion with the God of my understanding is one of my greatest passions that feed my heart.

A second way I love myself enough is having the willingness and courage to do the deeper shadow healing that liberates me from my past and frees me to co-create the future I want.

Self-Love Exercise One

Fill in the following statement with as many responses you can think of that would reflect your courageous heart.

I love myself enough to….

Self-Love Exercise Two

To begin, take several minutes to recall someone you deeply love or have loved. It could be a spouse, parent, child, teacher, animal, or God. Breathe into that feeling of love allowing that energy to fill you up inside your body. With this energy connection of love that can feel like Divine Love

1. Sit or stand in front of a mirror so you can gaze into your own eyes. Say loving things to you – be the recipient of that Divine love.
2. Breathe deeply and place both hands over your spiritual heart chakra in the center of your chest. Say loving things to yourself such as saying your name and adding, “I am a wonderful loving, incredible woman/man. I own my value and special gifts. I love my soul, I love my ego.”
3. As you continue to breathe in the love, have the thought of breathing out anything that is contrary to love. Release any resistance to receiving this love into your heart. Do this for several more minutes and then focus on breathing in love and breathing out love into the world.

Ready to fall more deeply in love with yourself?

More from Lorraine Cohen

Join me for Pathways to Awakening which is an advanced program for people who are ready to work with deeper processes to support their spiritual evolution, personal transformation, and inner healing.

Each four-week experiential journey offers opportunities to release the past, deepen your relationship with the God of your understanding, and liberate you from the limitations of your mind.

Last month the series began with a journey through forgiveness and many people had some extraordinary breakthroughs after just two weeks. The next journey begins Wednesday, July 6 and we will be working with Love with a specific focus on Self-Love integrating my extensive expertise with shadow and inner child processes. Learn more here.

Lorraine Cohen is the CEO and founder of Powerfull Living. Join Lorraine on May 15 and 17 for two FREE calls: Awakening to Love: Revealing Your Courageous Heart in an Insane World. You are invited to register here.

  • Hi Carol. Thanks for bringing your voice to the conversation. Sounds like we are kindred spirits! Blessings, Lorraine