Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. – Marianne Williamson
Fear is all around us and part of our daily existence. We are bombarded by fear messages in our conversations, the media, advertisements, and global conditions. Fear is part of the environment and culture on the planet. The air isn’t safe, the water isn’t safe, your home needs protection, and cultures are controlled by fear through terror, rules, and restrictions.
So, it has become “normal” for you to have been conditioned to live in fear.
You’ve been brainwashed to believe you should be afraid about the future, money, relationships, health, jobs, careers, the economy, business downturns, and life survival. All of this produces sleepless nights filled with worry that may create a gloomy outlook on life.
In my practice, I continually hear people express their fears, worries and doubts about their circumstances and the future. Our mind can paint the most horrific worse case scenario that can be convincing as highly probably or likely to happen.
We are powerful story tellers and when we begin to believe and validate the things we imagine, we can lose faith, trust, and courage to show up for both the joys and bumps that make life rich and meaningful.
How to hear the voice of your heart
Last week I had a meltdown. I’ve had some minor medical challenges that have not been resolved and some business issues that have been stressful. And when I am not feeling my best and not getting adequate rest, I’m pretty reactive and cranky. My fears escalate, my self-talk turns negative.
So there I was sliding right into my victim’s role and blasting God for all the things I am unhappy about. I expect God can handle my anger when my life is feeling hard and messy. After 30 minutes of stomping around, crying, complaining, and yelling at God, I could feel the calmness spreading within me and my mind began to clear.
The release of pent up energy was so freeing because I gave myself permission to let loose in a healthy way. Then I was able to go into contemplation, prayer, and meditation to reconnect with my soul for comfort and guidance and to ask for help.
It is hard to hear the voice of your heart when you have all that noise going on in your head! When we keep things bottled up inside and don’t release it, that’s when we can create illness, physical and emotional problems.
Five ways your fear serves you
- Fear keeps you out of harm’s way by alerting you to danger.
- Fear helps you to discern when you need to set healthy boundaries.
- Fear supports you in developing courage to show up to life.
- Fear builds faith in yourself, others, and God.
- Fear provides motivational and inspirational energy to move forward.
It has been my experience that when you get to the heart of most fears, the greatest fear is the fear of dying. More often the fears we experience can feel enormous during periods of upheaval, change, uncertainty, and transition. This is the ego’s irrational fear of annihilation and the battle waged inside us in its struggle to survive and maintain control.
Irrational fears have their genesis from past experiences, real and imagined. Fear is generated by your ego and typically fueled by compelling illusions, anticipated outcomes, and expectations about the future.
When we are engaged in irrational fear we are not in the now. When faced with the emergence of irrational fear, having the ability to distinguish between legitimate ones can make the difference between feeling clobbered or being able to transform them with courage and clarity.
Five signs of an Irrational Fear
- Is highly emotionally charged.
- It has catastrophic, self-deprecating, or illusional content that diminishes centeredness and perspective.
- It is inconsistent with the present reality.
- It lacks gut-centered confirmation or knowingness.
- It reflects past psychological, emotional, physical, or wounds.
Courage is not the absence of fear
Courage is about following your heart in spite of what your mind and feelings are telling you. Courage is an act of love and faith to do what is right and true for you; to be willing to do whatever it takes because you must.
Each person expresses and experiences courage differently. Courage is an internal feeling that can be powerfully directed outward in the world as an expression of your heart’s desires and soul’s intentions.
Ultimately, courage has little to do with what you might view as heroism and heroic acts and everything to do with the choices you make every moment and every day throughout the course of your life. Acts of courage can be seemingly small yet powerfull in the ways you can transform yourself and your life.
You came into this life with everything you need to fulfill your life purpose. This is truer than you may realize.
The key to transforming fear is with your relationship with your essential self and God/The Divine/ Higher Power/Source… Cultivating faith, trust, and courage is an inside job. That’s why doing the inner work is so important. If you have so much noise going on in your head, how can you hear the whispers of your heart?
When you walk in faith, trust, and courage with an open heart to share your love, gifts, and passions with the world in partnership, fear loses power to hold you back from your destiny.
Is fear inspiring more faith, trust, and courage or is it keeping you up at night with worry and doubt?
Is fear empowering you or holding you back from fulfilling your dreams and desires?
Is fear inviting connection with others or keeping love at arm’s distance?
Do you see fear as something to befriend or something to “get rid” of in your life?
Is fear giving you the courage to speak from your heart or is it silencing your voice?
Imagine partnering with your fear and dancing with the Universe to fulfill your life path……
What would be possible?
It’s all within your grasp…..
Start saying Yes and taking one step at a time…in faith, trust, and courage.
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