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Christmas Forgiveness and the Gift of Letting Go

By on Dec 14, 2014

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I vow to let go of all worries and anxiety in order to be light and free. – Thich Nhat Han

Our family’s Christmas to-do list has been put on hold. With a couple of unexpected challenges, the family’s focus has turned to how we can support each other and not on trips to the shopping mall or finishing the house decorations.

This Christmas season has been a reminder that the most important gifts we can give to others, and to ourselves, are to forgive and let go.

Gifts like…

Forgive the mistakes you’ve made. Let go of the guilt so you don’t have to live in the past any longer.

Forgive the people who have hurt you. Let go of the pain so you can open your heart and welcome peace back in.

Forgive your body for the things you don’t like. Let go and free yourself of the idea you have to be perfect.

My Christmas Forgiveness List

The Christmas spirit is stirring inside of me.

Recent events have provided a new perspective to consider my life and the things that need forgiveness – and the things I need to let go. I share these things with a vulnerable heart, but also with the hope that you will consider what you need to add your Christmas forgiveness list so peace can breathe inside of you, too.

I forgive the Enemy and the self-sabotage I’ve allowed to happen. This Christmas, I’m letting go of feeling damaged, inadequate and unworthy.

I forgive myself for not being a better husband. This Christmas, I’m letting go of the guilt for the times I let Mary Beth down.

I forgive my mother for drinking her comfort. This Christmas, I’m letting go of the painful memories so I can better remember the times when she was just my mom.

I forgive the people who said they would be my friend, but then disappeared. This Christmas, I’m letting go of the anger so I can make room for new friendships.

I forgive myself for the selfish choice that cost the world a beautiful soul to see. This Christmas, I want to begin learning how to let go of the regret.

I forgive my brother for leaving too soon. This Christmas, I’m letting go of the thought that I could have saved him.

A New Christmas Tradition

This Christmas, my family is creating a new tradition. While we will still celebrate like we always have, I sense that something new is being made.

This tradition will cover us with more love than we could have ever created on our own. This Christmas tradition will remind us to forgive, and to be forgiven; and then to let go of the things that make us anxious.

Even if we don’t complete everything our to-do list on time, I have a feeling this Christmas will be one we will always remember.

The BridgeMaker Founder Alex Blackwell is the author of Letting Go: 25 True Stories of Peace, Hope and Surrender. Join the community to connect, share and inspire: Twitter | Facebook | More Posts

  • A beautiful post, Alex. Thank you for sharing this universal tradition with the world.

  • Thanks Alex the reminder. Forgiveness is great but self forgiveness is one of the hardest for us to truly do and so I have made the commitment to forgive myself for all the hard ache I have caused myself and the mean things I have said to me in disgust. That is the greatest gift of them all.

    • Amen to that Rose, that’s why I work on self-forgiveness a little every day.

      Take good care,


  • Forgiveness is necessary for happiness. I think your Christmas tradition of forgiveness is a wonderful idea.

    • So happy you like the idea Lovelyn! Forgiveness is indeed the best gift.

  • Becky

    Alex. You are not alone as you travel this path of forgiveness and the need to let go of persistent, debilitating memories. Thank you for the guidance of a new tradition. It’s another step forward for me as well.

    • Every day we take the journey together Becky. I hope you have a wonderful Christmas!

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