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Don’t Rent Your Life, Own It

By on Aug 31, 2011


I ain’t gonna live forever. I just want to live while I’m alive. – from the song It’s My Life by Jon Bon Jovi

I learned the words to It’s My Life several years ago even though I never memorized the lyrics. Instead, I allowed the song, and its meaning, to be written on my heart where it still lives today.

The song was played for me during a time when I thought I had to be perfect; when I had to be in control to find peace. The venue was a personal formation seminar. Before attending the seminar, it felt like I was renting life without any clear or explicit ownership over it. My relationships were deteriorating while my depression was increasing. I felt detached, uninvolved, and lifeless.

After allowing the song’s words into my heart, I realized it wasn’t too late to build a life that belonged to me and not one nestled in the shadows of dimly-lit rooms, never-emptied glasses or inappropriate touches. The freedom was exhilarating.

Today my life is about savoring every moment; it’s about appreciating exactly what I have. Today is about owning my life and being excited about what will happen next. To claim full ownership over it, I’ve written and signed my life-ownership contract.

What I find most liberating about my life contract is I don’t need to have it perfectly memorized to find peace because the words have always lived on my heart – I just had to set them free.

My Life-Ownership Contract

  • I agree to follow my true purpose: To be happy.
  • I agree to do things that bring me joy.
  • I agree to lead my children to wherever they want to go.
  • I agree to ask for love and to give love back.
  • I agree to serve myself in the same way I serve others.
  • I agree to give myself grace when I fall down.
  • I agree to accentuate the positive.
  • I agree to taste every kiss.
  • I agree to hold onto my power and avoid the temptation of giving it away.
  • I agree to allow kindness to cover me.
  • I agree to live with a forgiving heart.
  • I agree to see the hero in me.
  • I agree to the fact that I do matter.
  • I agree to be a secure, confident, self-loving man.

What are the words to your life contract?

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