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Decide That You Matter

By on Oct 29, 2015

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You don’t have to go looking for love when it’s where you come from. – Werner Erhard

Glory Finds You

You were made to be exactly who you are. You have a purpose. A path has been created to take you on a special mission. No matter your job, education or financial status, you are here to make a difference.

If your life brings happiness, security, and purpose to another life then you have accomplished your mission. Your name may never appear in lights and a statue may never be commissioned, but the glory of you will live forever.

Take pride in the simple beauty of you.

And when you feel like you aren’t making a difference, Glory finds you.

Mercy finds you

The things we do never go away. For better or worse, our deeds live right where we put them. When the words we choose hurt, the pain goes from an acute intensity to a dull reminder. When our actions cause sadness, trust takes a blow. When our thoughts drift to a dark place, our mind is kept from realizing the decency it deserves.

But no matter how far we fall, we can always change for the better. We can take our broken pieces and begin fitting them together again. Mercy welds these pieces back into their intended shape. We don’t have to do anything special to receive mercy; we just have to be sorry for what we have done.

Forgiveness is waiting.

And when you feel like you don’t deserve it, Mercy finds you.

Dignity finds you

Your best intentions are sometimes meant with indifference, discrimination, or worse. Some people find it necessary to show disrespect instead of support. Cruelty is used to influence rather than kindness. There are times when you are made to feel badly about who you are, what you believe and who you love.

However, humans are not made with a perfectly calibrated moral compass. Ignorance, prejudice, and intolerance can jam the signals given to us. When this happens, hurtful things are said and inappropriate behavior ensues.

No matter the words or actions fired at you, know this: You are a person of incredible value. God doesn’t make mistakes and He doesn’t make anyone who is subordinate to another.

Harsh words do sting; exclusion feels lonely and violence is terrifying, but you have the best repellent against all these things – your dignity.

And when you feel like they just might be right about you, Dignity finds you.

Love finds you

When you feel alone and your heart is breaking, hold on to the promise that relief is on its way. The space between the pain and hope’s arrival is soothed by love. Love knows what lives in your heart and it knows how to take care of you.

Shame, regret and anger are sometimes used to keep Love away. While these tactics have formidable strength in the beginning , their power begins to fade over time because love finds a way to tell you that you still count; you still matter; and you are still loved – no matter what.

Still suspicious of receiving Love’s grace? Wait for the compliment, discover the handwritten note, receive an unexpected telephone call or hear the right words at just the right time. This is love seeking you; finding you and then giving you just what you need.

Come out of hiding and embrace this truth. You no longer need to feel that love’s light is meant for everyone but you. Take in its warmth. Be re-energized by its power. Allow love to cover you like a coat – tailored to fit just your size.

And even when you have stopped looking for love, Love finds you and then reminds you that you matter.

The BridgeMaker Founder Alex Blackwell is the author of Letting Go: 25 True Stories of Peace, Hope and Surrender. Join the community to connect, share and inspire: Twitter | Facebook | More Posts

  • I agree with John below…very beautiful and carried a lot of heart and raw emotion….I just wished that a lot of people can read this to spread the message.

    Love, compassion and true self-esteem are the answer to our problems in life (forgiveness being love of self). Thanks for putting this energy out there.

  • John Sherry

    Beautiful Alex…from the heart and felt by the heart. Bless you x

    • Hey John, thanks for sharing your wonderful encouragement!

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