When we get too caught up in the busyness of the world, we lose connection with one another – and ourselves. – Jack Kornfield
The tactics for achieving re-connection are obvious: email less and talk face-to-face more; turn off the television during dinner and ask one question beyond, “How was your day?” And crave the human touch more than the satisfaction of receiving a text message.
The way we embrace, support and hold onto to one another in times of joy and sorrow makes us distinctly human. I don’t want us to lose that; I don’t want to lose that.
The path to re-connection extends well beyond email control and television rationing; the path begins and ends in our souls when we find the tenderness to reach out and connect.
Reaching out and reconnecting is an action that doesn’t need modern technology to measure, track or make more efficient – it just needs the natural processors in our hearts to respond when they are stimulated by the pulse of another heart. When they do, a conscious connection is made.
Consider these heartfelt ways to make a conscious connection with the people who matter most to you:
- Become more transparent.
Let the ones closest to you see the real you. When we become guarded or shut down, others can distance themselves because they see little hope of getting through.
There is a difference, however, between wearing your heart on your sleeve and sharing your heart. Protect your heart from people you may not yet trust, but share your heart with the ones who deserve the privilege. Let these people know what you are thinking, feeling and hoping. Their reaction may inspire you to continue filling your heart with the things that make your stronger and more alive.
- Connect with faith.
Share your faith in the small things as well as the large. Demonstrate your faithfulness to a cause or belief by staying positive and sincere; even during difficult times.
Faith is something we can pass along to others without emptying it for ourselves.
- Treat others with respect and dignity.
A simple way to push someone away is to be condescending or disrespectful. Why is it we are sometimes nicer and more accommodating to strangers or workplace acquaintances than we are to our own family?
Show respect to all and save the same measure of respect and dignity for the ones closest to your heart. It is these people who stand by us and depend on our love and nurturing to be returned. If you have missed a recent opportunity to return the love, show respect by returning it today.
- Share passion.
Get the passion going again by sharing what you love. The connection with another can grow deeper roots when passion is used to nurture the relationship.
Share your love for a special book, a moment of self-realization, or a great hamburger. Share. Get excited and watch passion build a bridge connecting your heart to another.
- Give hope.
These four words, “You can do it,” when spoken, can be a difference-maker in someone’s life. Your encouragement can lift someone from a low and desperate place and begin to ignite their spirit and fill them with confidence and refreshing hope.
Giving, and receiving, hope reminds us we are responsible not only for the physical care of others, but the emotional care as well. There can be no better connection than filling the heart, body and soul of another person with hope.
- Forgive quickly, move on and don’t punish.
Holding on to anger and resentment can erode even the strongest of connections. When we are angered and frustrated by the actions of someone else, find it in your heart to forgive quickly so you can move on and turn the focus back to what you can do to improve the relationship (when appropriate and safe to do so), and then the connection.
Find the good
Conscious connection doesn’t require much effort- it only takes the desire to reach out and do so.
Shut down the computer, turn off the television, and silence the cell phone. Give your eyes, your attention and your heart to the person standing right in front of you. Find the good in the moment and a connection will follow.