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A Simple Path – To What Love Has Won

By on Apr 01, 2012

“Whenever I despair, I remember that the way of truth and love has always won.” ~ Gandhi

Last week was one of those weeks – the kind of week when everything seemed more difficult than it should be.

Here’s a brief recap:

  • A couple of unexpected bills arrived, and the timing couldn’t have been worse.
  • I had to endure the purgatory-like experience of the Division of Motor Vehicles to renew my car’s registration.
  • And to top it off, a rabbit gave birth in the backyard and then deserted her babies. May Beth and I gathered up the dead baby rabbits and respectfully removed them.

Not a good week.

It felt like the score was higher in the Lost column than it was in the Win column.

It’s easy for me to fall into the rut of staring at the losses too long, and ignoring the wins. The losses seem to build energy until their power covers me like thick goo. I get weary; I get discouraged, and to be honest, I get depressed, too.

But then an awakening happens – a moment of awareness that tells me the losses aren’t spinning out of control. My moment came in the tenderness of my wife’s words. Sensing I was down, she reminded me of what I have accomplished, what I have done, and what I am doing right now.

Mary Beth’s patience, and understanding, resulted in a Win better than any Loss. Her faith in me is a gentle reminder that no matter how uncomfortable life can feel at times, when I raise my head to see what love has won, my faith, and happiness, returns a little stronger than it was before.

My wife’s pep talk helped me realize that no loss can compare to what love has won:
– Love has won and is showering a life of promise on my family.
– Love has won and is calming the storm in me.
– Love has won and is answering the cry of my heart.
– Love has won and is drawing my spirit back to where it wants to be.
– Love has won and is giving me today.

Sometimes the simple path to seeing what love has won begins by realizing what’s in the Win column is more important than what is in the Loss column – even on the days when the score feels lopsided.

A new week is beginning. I’m sure the coming week won’t be problem free. Challenges will pop up, and irritations will happen. But rather than seeing what’s wrong, I’ll look for what’s right; I’ll look for what Love has already won.

I will see that Love is hard at work healing the broken image of me.

I can’t think of a better win.

What is A Simple Path?

This post is in A Simple Path, a twice-weekly series of short pieces inspired by my own life experiences. Each post is a simple path to experiencing something wonderful: maybe seeing life from a different perspective, or celebrating its beauty. Click here to read all posts in the series.

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  • Ben

    Alex thanks for the post. I can definately identify with these down times, as i’ve noticed that now i’ve started looking at the things that are effecting me today as ways to further my healing and letting go it’s become more powerful for me.

    It’s also good to be around people who can encourage you wherever you find that. It’s awesome you have Mary Beth to support you with this as making changes can make other people uncomfortable, but having somebody on a similar path helps alot!


  • Rose, the situation with the rabbits was the crowning jewel last week; so I thanks for your kind words. I’ll follow up on the other matter with you separately.

  • Alex, I SO honor the way you and your family handled the dead abandoned baby rabbits. Getting through those weeks of pesky personal business are just that–getting THROUGH them and then breathing a sigh of relief! By the way, Alex, I responded to your request to send you a invitation to be a “friend” on Facebook in order to “spend 20 min. a day helping others”–what happened with that?

  • I appreciate your encouragement Suzanna.