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A Simple Path – To Letting Go

By on Feb 29, 2012


Some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it is letting go. – Herman Hesse

Understanding when it’s time to let go feels like a miracle.

I know.

My miracle is happening

Over the past several months I’ve been working hard to complete my first book. Long hours of writing, re-writing and editing resulted in being contacted by a publisher that wanted to partner with me. It was a long-awaited, exciting moment when I opened the email and read their offer.

But my excitement quickly faded when I heard my inner voice; my inner wisdom, express concern. I chose to ignore the advice and focus on getting the project completed – no matter what.

Giving up wasn’t an option even though frequent changes in project managers, poor communication and a less-than-stellar final designed book left me disappointed.

My inner wisdom was right, again.

The tight grasp I had around the idea of producing a book compromised my judgment. I was afraid if I ended the relationship, then my book would never see the light of day. I was afraid to let go.

Finding clarity

My moment of understanding happened while helping a client. The client, a new blogger, asked me to review her articles and then suggest appropriate categories. I welcomed the assignment because it would take my mind off the troubles at hand.

Seven articles into the assignment, I found my miracle.

The article, Giving the Universe Space (part one), by Suzanne Grenager, greeted me and provided what my inner wisdom already knew, but my conscious mind had been resisting:

The trick—and it is a trick of magical proportions—is to do the letting go part when the time is right. As you too must know, the ego doesn’t like to let go, so we often need to figure out an end run that lets us get by her.

The truth in Suzanne’s words resonated with me. It was time to let go.

I contacted the publisher and negotiated an end to the agreement. I spent two days researching other publishing partners – and then found one. I accepted the fact that the book’s release would be delayed. I heard my inner voice say what my heart needed to hear, “Have faith. You are stronger than you think.”

Sometimes the simple path to letting go begins when we listen to our inner voice; our inner wisdom, tell us that surrendering isn’t a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength.

My strength is returning.

Letting go has helped me realize that when our thoughts get clouded by what we want to see, we fail to see the real truth.

My truth is telling me to lean on faith, don’t give up hope and know that I’m stronger than I think.

So, I’m letting go. I’m surrendering my fear, too.

And I feel safe and sound.

What is A Simple Path?

This post is in A Simple Path, a twice-weekly series of short pieces inspired by my own life experiences. Each post is a simple path to experiencing something wonderful: maybe seeing life from a different perspective, or celebrating its beauty. Click here to read all posts in the series.

The BridgeMaker Founder Alex Blackwell is the author of Letting Go: 25 True Stories of Peace, Hope and Surrender. Join the community to connect, share and inspire: Twitter | Facebook | More Posts

  • Great example of working through the process of letting go.

    I learned a visual and physical exercise a few years ago that helps me work through letting something go. It’s the concept around holding a rock or some physical object in my hand. Hold it out in front with palm facing up and let it go. Obviously it still sits there. Now turn the palm over facing down and let gravity take care of the rest. I use this often to remind myself that letting go and “turning it over” are two different things. Although I think I accept something and let go of it, my ego is still holding on to it. Or even if I do turn it over I bend over and pick it back up. LOL

    It takes practice for me and just as important is reminding myself that just because I accept something doesn’t mean I have to like it.

    You also talk about the process of surrender, reminding me of something I heard once, “when we surrender it helps to let the other side know.”

    Surrender for me has come easier with faith (from experience and practice) and through that humility. That I can chose humility as opposed to being bludgeoned into it.

    This also reminds me, as everything does, how it all comes back to being OK with ourselves. That it’s easier to let things go when we have less emotional investment in the outcome. Knowing our authentic self and that alone is enough, we need less externally to validate or make us feel worthy. As in, “I need this to validate me and make me a worthy person, liked, loved, etc.” therefore I cannot let it go.

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  • Another response for “Hoping”

    I read “Hoping’s” question and Alex’s thoughtful reply and was immediately reminded of my blog post called “Becky’s burning question.” Becky asks the same question “Hoping” does but in more detail. Alex kindly agreed when I asked if I could suggest you visit my site. There, on the the main Blog page you’ll find two posts, one with Becky’s question, the other with several suggestions — from me and three readers who jumped in to help Becky figure out how to leave a lucrative career she hates while supporting her whole extended family. Hope it helps!

  • Hoping, thanks so much for reading. There may not be a clear answer for you right now, but with the right amount of planning, and prayer the answer will be obvious. What I mean is you may have to stay where you are because of financial obligations, while you make a plan and then build momentum to leave. When the time is right, believe you will know it. Good luck to you.