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A Simple Path – To Asking for Help

By on Apr 15, 2011


“Refusing to ask for help when you need it is refusing someone the chance to be helpful.” – Ric Ocasek

The cries for help have been more frequent lately. Some cries have been a whisper while others have been perfectly clear. Pain, uncertainty and fear live at the core of each one – no matter their intensity.
Last week, I received a call from Andrew’s college. The person told me there was an $81 technology fee on my son’s account and he couldn’t enroll in the fall semester until it was paid.

I found out Andrew was failing English so he decided to drop the class. In its place, he added a computer class. This was a surprise. My son had been struggling, looking for answers; but he didn’t ask for help. After we talked, I could tell he was asking for help now.

Earlier this week, a friend learned she needed immediate surgery. She and I have spent most of the week preparing for her surgery and subsequent recovery. My friend asked for help and I was honored to provide it.

Today, I’m asking for help. Next week I will have surgery to remove a couple of suspicious spots from my face. I’ve been through this before, and I will make it through this time as well – it’s just a little unnerving.

Life is a little easier, and not as freighting, when we share our struggles and ask for help.

Sometimes the simple path to asking for help is created by believing it’s a sign of strength, not weakness, to do so.

When we believe we are worthy to receive help, and the love that comes with it, we tap into a quiet, beautiful strength. Asking for help shows our courage to face the problem and then, with a little help, move past it.

To Andrew: You are my son, no matter your age or situation. You don’t have to carry your problems alone. Ask for my help and I will give it to you, always.

To my friend: You are in my prayers. If you need anything, just keep asking and I’ll be there to help.

To the frightened me: You are loved and the people who are now responsible for your care won’t let you down. It’s okay to ask for help – you are worthy to receive it.

What is A Simple Path?

This post is in A Simple Path, a series of short pieces inspired by my own life experiences. Each post is a simple path to experiencing something wonderful: maybe seeing life from a different perspective, or celebrating its beauty. Click here to read all posts in the series.

The BridgeMaker Founder Alex Blackwell is the author of Letting Go: 25 True Stories of Peace, Hope and Surrender. Join the community to connect, share and inspire: Twitter | Facebook | More Posts

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  • So true. This is one thing I need to be practicing more, Alex. To acknowledge that I do need help at times, and that by asking for help, I honor other people’s capacity and concern for me.

  • All – I returned my surgery a few hours ago. I’m sore, but good. I’ll get the lab results next week. Thanks so much for the positive energy and prayers.

  • Marcus, thanks for your sincere encouragement.

    These types of surprises are the best Rob – thanks for sharing yours.

  • Rob

    Alex,

    It is in our vulnerability at times that we see the best in others. A good friend of mine gave me some counsel. I needed it but was surprised that it came from him. It was a pleasant surprise.
    Be at peace Alex, many are pulling for you.

    Live it LOUD!