There is a light in this world, a healing spirit more powerful than any darkness we may encounter. – Mother Teresa
As I was returning from running some errands I began thinking about my mother.
When I was in my late 20s, my mother told me she no longer loved my father and that she was unhappy with her life. In my parent’s generation talking about feelings and thoughts wasn’t the norm. The fact she came to me was huge. I felt her sadness and confusion about what to do. At the age of 27, I had no words to guide or console her.
I was as lost as she was.
So, feeling stuck in the “bed she made” and too terrified to make any changes, she sucked everything back in and never spoke about how she felt again. Five years later, my mother who was a vibrant, healthy woman, was diagnosed with leukemia. And at the young age of 66, she found a way to leave her marriage and her life.
Imprisoned by fear
I often hear people expressing anger and unhappiness about their life situations. And when faced with solutions that could dramatically change their life for the better, they back off.
Their fears keep them imprisoned in situations that suck the joy out of life. They use excuses to avoid making changes:
It’s too late.
It’s too hard.
Now’s not the right time.
I can’t afford to.
It will cause too much upset for my family.
Lack of self-esteem keeps them stuck believing that they are meant to suffer. Life becomes a daily suffering that continues to dim their soul’s Light.
Some people have to get to a point where they “can’t stand it” anymore. They have had enough of a relationship, a job, money struggles, their fears, health conditions. They surrender their resistance and take that leap of faith to honor the whispers of their heart.
Magic begins to happen.
My mother lived by the old teachings of sacrifice and duty. I believe she was filled with regrets, self-anger, and a deep need for forgiveness that eventually turned into disease. When she died, she was finally free.
After she died I experienced an inner spiritual earthquake that brought me to my knees. It was the first time in my life I realized how much denial I had been living in and how much of a stranger I was to myself.
In that moment, I committed to a life of Awakening and the journey “home.” My mother’s death was a catalyst for the next step in my awakening and my life’s work as a transformational catalyst and spiritual guide.
That’s why I am so deeply committed to the inner healing and transformation work and saying over and over how critical it is to have the guts to do the shadow and inner child work. And that’s why I go into those dark places myself. I don’t want my life to be filled with “regrets, anger, and resentments or to be too afraid to really LIVE.
The path to liberation
I feel my mother speaking to me today and reminding me of how heavy a cost we pay when we are lost in fear and suffering. How much we give up when we allow our fears and subconscious beliefs to hold up captive from fully living the life we were born to.
And how much pain we experience when we are separated from ourselves and that Divine spark when we resist the truth of who we are and live in our illusions.
Wherever you go, you take your stuff with you. And the only path to true liberation for your Light to shine brightly is through those dark places.
I know it can be scary to go into the shadows. The reward of giving you the gift of this freedom and peace is experiencing states of grace and love beyond words.
Resentments, regrets, judgments, anger affects everything in your life.
Whatever you are holding onto that is unresolved and not brought to love and peace within you in operating at full throttle affecting every area of your life, mentally, physically, emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually. What isn’t released into love festers inside. The result is unhappiness, suffering, illness…life feels hard and painful.
That’s not what you signed up for!
Restoring peace by having the chops to take the journey with forgiveness is the pathway to the life you came to live as an awakened being in this new world consciousness of love and prosperity. The past can only be put to rest if you are willing to take the steps to liberate yourself.
How to tell when you have truly forgiven? You feel at peace – no resistance, no emotional charge or angst. Pure peacefulness within you and you feel an increase of energy and a rise in your happiness level.
Are you at peace?
Are you a welcoming place to receive all the good the Universe wants to gift you?
Take a look at your life.
Wherever you are harboring resentments, judgments, anger, blame, regrets is a sign that there is forgiveness work to be done.
Money struggles, relationship challenges, health conditions, unhappiness.. are indicators of a need for forgiveness.
Forgiveness is an internal shift you embody not something you will yourself to feel. Forgiveness is the pathway to love and Grace. Forgiveness is a bridge to the Divine.
If you are suffering, give yourself the gift of doing this inner work. If you have been trying to do this healing work yourself with limited success that is because you are too close to your pain. Get help from a trained professional you trust to walk with you though these darker places.
You are not meant to live a life of pain and suffering.
Forgiveness is an act of self-love.
The only thing you have to lose is your pain.
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