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9 Truths about Change

By on Dec 26, 2012

If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. – Wayne Dyer

Life can be unpredictable and can often disappoint when it does not follow our plan. Jobs are lost; relationships end and some people die too soon.

However, faith tells us there can be a purpose to everything that happens; and there can even be a purpose for the things which seem to happen only to us. These nine truths about change offer comfort during difficult times and can remind us how to embrace change each day – no matter the disappointment.

  1. Choose the present.
    Certain events or experiences can make a lasting impact. As we grow older, our mistakes, and the harm done along the way, can also leave its mark. We often miss what’s happening right before us because we are still travelling in the past. The truth is we cannot undo our past, but we can choose our present.

    Acknowledge your past and at the same time keep learning to let it go so you can better embrace what you have today.

  2. The truth sets you free.
    To be free we must first acknowledge our truth. Perhaps it’s too difficult or embarrassing to accept that truth; or it requires making a change we do not want to make. Until we can accept our truth we will always be a prisoner to the things which keep us from fully living.

    Take an honest look at your truths and what’s keeping you stuck in a place lacking the passion you are seeking. For me, it’s my level of self-confidence and worthiness. There are so many things I want to accomplish. And even though I’m making progress, I will not realize all that is in my heart until I begin to feel worthy of receiving them.
    The truth is, what will set me free, once and for all, is to believe I deserve good things to happen to me, too.

  3. It’s not what happens to us.
    For most, what has happened to us (or is happening to us) is a direct of result of our actions and the choices we made. However, it is important to acknowledge that are many victims (children, women and men) who did not ask for, or deserve, their circumstances.

    No matter what has happened, every day we get a new choice of deciding how to live that day. We can seek forgiveness, counseling, or spiritual care. There are resources available to match every need.

  4. Happy in spite of.
    I wish I was better-looking, had an Ivy League education and the ability to do whatever I wanted without the need to generate income. But you what? I’m still happy in spite of what I don’t have.

    I have found it’s better to measure happiness by taking an inventory of what I do have (excellent health, a wonderful family, the money to pay my bills plus a little left over) than to consider what I don’t have. This is a much more positive unit of measurement and opens myself up to receiving more of the same.

    We can find happiness in spite of how inconvenient certain situations appear to be when we begin to understand we are the creators of our own happiness based on how we choose to react and respond to the truths which exists around us.

  5. Blind faith gets results.
    The expression, “Burn the boats,” demonstrates blind faith. This phrase can be traced back to the ancient Greek warriors and their commanders who would give the order to “Burn the boats” after the warriors had landed on the enemy’s shore.

    The commanders’ message was simple: We know we will be victorious, so we don’t need the boats anymore, because there will be no need to retreat. Our faith tells us we will win.

    Burn the Boats reminds us that to live passionately means we don’t have a lot of time for negative thinking. We have to put our trust in our faith and understand there is no turning back when we make the commitment to live our life on our terms.

    With this awareness, with this truth, we can place our fear, anxiety and self-doubt on those boats and watch and as they sink and disappear from our sight.

  6. There is always an answer.
    No matter what happens, there is an answer. Travelling through the darkness there is a light ahead. Its power to illuminate may be weak and unnoticeable at first, because we may not be looking for it, but it is there, waiting for us.

    In the light there is an answer; and in the answer is truth.

  7. Believe what you affirm.
    We can make it happen when we believe, really believe, in what we are doing and when we think big.

    Thinking big is acknowledging the abundance in our lives. This type of thinking can make our dreams a reality. When faith is added to the mix, we create a winning combination.

    Consider your resources, the abundance in your life, which will help begin your work. By using what you have (time, money, faith) you will be able to set into motion an active attempt to believe, and live, what you affirm.

  8. All things ready when the mind be so.
    We don’t do anything until we are ready. We don’t start or end jobs, fall in love or live a passionate life until we are good and ready to do so.

    The key in the readiness process is coming to terms, in our own minds, that it’s time to begin. This discernment process is critical when determining if we want to do something because we have a deep conviction, or because we think we just should.

    Here’s the truth for me: When I get something on my mind, and after sorting through all of the pros and cons, if I still believe in going forward and have made ready my mind, body and soul, then, and only then, will it happen for me.

  9. The power in you.
    Life challenges us every day. We face disappointment, conflict, and pain. We also have the opportunity to feel the love that life provides. When we choose the latter, we choose to tap into the greatest power we possess – the power of love.

    Love comes in many shapes and sizes. There is love in greeting each day with the hope and promise we can make whatever we want from the day. There is love in our daily routines of raising our children, supporting our spouses, and there is love in following our hearts to wherever they are taking us.

    The power of love reminds us we are never alone and our lives, like our souls, have a purpose and in that purpose we will find the passion that is uniquely our own.

The BridgeMaker Founder Alex Blackwell is the author of Letting Go: 25 True Stories of Peace, Hope and Surrender. Join the community to connect, share and inspire: Twitter | Facebook | More Posts


    This is good stuff

  • Sahand

    Dear Alex
    Thanks again for your inspirational post…Yes we should be happy in all circumstances, but there is a question, What if we tried lots of times to be happy but every time we failed? What if we experienced pain and pain for the same reason?! Is there any hope yet?

    • Hope can be found when we let go, surrender and let the lesson settle down into our soul. Peace be with you Sahand.

  • J.D. Meier

    Fantastic reminder that blind faith gets results.

    There’s something about deciding that changes what we’re capable of and nothing builds momentum like decisive action.

    I like to draw from all temporal skills whether it’s the past, the present, or the future, and the key is always knowing when and why to use which one.

    • That is the key J.D. One advantage of growing older is the answers become a little clearer as our faith grows and matures.

  • This post was truly inspiring. So often, I think we get too involved in what is happening to just us as individuals and are not seeing how it all fits together with what is in our world.

    • Like you Glynis, I believe there is a plan that’s bigger than any one of us. Thank you for your important part in the plan!

  • Your point about being happy in spite of reminds me of the verse in the Bible about giving thanks in all circumstances. It doesn’t say to give thanks “for” the circumstances, but to be grateful regardless of the circumstances. Great list. Looking forward to another year of your inspiration.

    • Alex Blackwell


    • Hi Galen – I’m looking forward to sharing the inspiration with you. Thanks for sharing the journey with me.