You only live once, but if you do it right once is enough – Mae West
When was the last time you paused and reflected on your life? When did you last ponder on your successes? Failures? Achievements?
I believe we can benefit and contribute to our personal development by taking time to reflect and evaluate. I have always been aiming to spur my personal development through reflection and evaluation.
I’m convinced the best way to reflect upon our situation is to ask questions; thought provoking questions. We have to become champions in asking the right questions because it makes us capable of assessing our lives better. Here are seven provoking questions I encourage you to ask before it is too late.
1. What would you attempt to do if you knew you couldn’t fail?
Would you pursue a dream? Would you become an entrepreneur? What would you attempt?
I want you to ask yourself this question and come up with a sincere and honest answer. Answering this question will give you an indication of what aspect of your life you’d like to be different.
When you have an honest answer I’d like you to take it one step further and ask: “What is holding your back?” When we identify our dreams it is easier to break down our limits and push on. Convince yourself that failing is not fatal nor is it final.
People learn from failure so embrace failure as the teacher it is. Make an attempt today. You won’t regret it.
2. If not now then when?
How many times have you promised yourself to do something but have never done anything about it?
How many times have you told yourself: “I’ll do it tomorrow?” I’d like to encourage you to change this approach to life. From now on, I want you to take massive action starting today. Don’t start tomorrow or in the future. Commit to start today!
Think about this: “When everything is said and done – Will you have said more than you have done?” Stop postponing your life and decide to become a doer. Thinkers are good but doers change the world.
3. When was the last time you did something for the first time?
Yesterday? One week ago? One month ago? One year ago? Do you even remember?
I want you to always keep in mind that life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away. Go out and do something that gives you goose bumps. Go out there and do something that you will look back at and smile.
I encourage you to say yes to new adventures and try something new. Go skydiving. Volunteer at a shelter or donate money to a charity you like. Start saying yes to life starting today.
4. If you had 10 years left to live – would you live your life different?
Imagine you were told that you had 10 years left to live. Would you change anything in your life?
Would you do exactly what you do now? What about your job? What friends would you see?
Sometimes it is important to ask this question because it gives you an indication if you are on the right track or not. Most of us have more than 10 years left to live – so we think!
Point is that you may have more than 10 years left to live but you may have less?! Live your life before it is too late. Don’t postpone life because at some point there is nothing left.
5. Would you like you if you met you?
If I could meet myself would I like whom I met? Asking this question makes us aware of our behavior towards other people. My mum always taught me: “Treat other people like you want them to treat you.”
I think this is a universal truth and you should spend some time regularly to reflect upon you behavior when you meet new people. I ask myself: “Am I the kind of friend I’d love to have as a friend?
Consider this question: Can you become more for other people? Do you keep your promises? Do you characterize yourself as reliable, honest and positive? Being nice to other people is the most awesome thing you can do to yourself and the world.
6. If you won a million dollars – Would you quit your job?
What would you do if you won a million dollars? Would you stay in the same situation as you are now? Maybe travel some more or spend some money on your loved ones?
Would you redefine your existence and build an entire new life?
In case you would rather do the latter, ask yourself: “What is holding me back to do this right now?” Finances? Security? Financial stability and security can be good to have. However, staying in the same job only because of the money is waste of precious hours.
You only live once. Make it count!
7. If you were going to die tomorrow – whom would you be with?
Who would you choose to spend your last day with? Family? Friends? Asking yourself this question can help you realize who the most precious and important people are in your life.
Be aware of these people and never forget to treat them well as they deserve. It is the people that never let you down and pick you up when you fall. It is the friends you can call up at 4.a.m that matter.
Find them and take care of them.
Life is short, break the rules, forgive quickly, kiss slowly, love truly, laugh uncontrollably, and never regret anything that made you smile. Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. – Mark Twain