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3 Ways to Make Room for Joy

By on Jun 04, 2012


May everyone be happy and safe, and may their hearts be filled with joy. – Buddha

How many times a day do you hear the “little voice” inside your head that sometimes whispers and sometimes shouts “you are just not good enough”?

Or perhaps it says, “Who do you think you are?” Or, “Surely you must be crazy!”

If not so direct, the “little voice” can sometimes feel like self-doubt, lack of inspiration or simply putting up with a situation that you know you should have ended.

The truth is that most of us have grown so accustomed to our “little voice” that we don’t really notice it anymore. It has become a part of who we are, how we feel about ourselves and how we live.

These thoughts are not good or bad. They just are thoughts. Ultimately, they either support your goals, hopes and dreams or they prevent you from achieving them.

If this self-appointed critic has become a squatter; taking up valuable space, squashing your dreams and sabotaging your success before you even begin, it is time to move him/her out and clear the space to make room for your creativity, joy and happiness!

Here are three things you can do right now to kick out the squatter. By taking action, you can make an immediate impact, begin to shift how you interact with others and ultimately enrich your life with more joy:

  1. Awareness
    Pay attention to your thoughts. Particularly when you hesitate or hold back when there is a part of you that feels like you’d really like to take a step toward your dreams. Question: does this thought support me or not?” The simple act of paying attention and becoming aware of your “little voice” can stop it in its tracks.
  2. Acknowledgment
    Carl Jung once said, “What you resist persists.” Once you have finished step one and you clearly see and hear the “little voice” for what it is telling you, don’t try to push the thought away. Say either to yourself or out loud, “I hear you. Thanks, but no thanks.”
  3. Choose
    Now take the negative thought and make it affirmative. For instance, if your “little voice” has you thinking, “oh, I’ll never meet this deadline”, the opposite of that would be, “I will meet this deadline with time to spare.” Then, replace the old thought with the new thought!

Did you know it takes only 21 days to form a new habit? Take these three simple steps, practice, practice, practice and in less than one month you will have a powerful new “little voice” that echoes, “way to go!”

Paula G. Rosario is the founder of On The Edge of Greatness Coaching & Consulting: “It is my joy to support others as they find what Oprah has forever dubbed the "AHA" moment. This is the place where I want to be...this is the place where I thrive!” – Paula Rosario

  • Interesting post! Never realised it was only 21 days to form a new habit

    • Paula G. Rosario

       Hi Carolyn,

      Glad you found my post of interest!

      Here’s to your greatness,

      Paula G. Rosario, On The Edge of Greatness Coaching & Consulting
      http://www.paulagrosario.com

  • Paula, thanks to fantastic encouragement and support from many blogging,Facebook, LinkedIn, and Twitter friends and family members, I really don’t hear that negative voice about myself much anymore.  I would encourage everyone to build an online community of supports and to subscribe to such helpful inspirational blogs such as this one!

    • Paula G. Rosario

       Hi Rose,

      Thank you for your kind words!  Yes, I find it so supportive to surround myself with like-minded and like-hearted individuals…lights up my world!

      Here’s to your greatness,

      Paula G. Rosario, On The Edge of Greatness Coaching & Consulting
      http://www.paulagrosario.com

  • Sue

    Yes, when life thumps you on the head listen!

    • Sue

      Oh I say that all the time,pay attention to your life!

  • 🙂 Yes, some positive self-talk is always welcome. Except we get so carried away with our inner critic’s hypnosis, we need more practice than we otherwise do. Thank God for choice!  Sometimes our dream goal is like a tasty banana. Gotta strip off those obstructive layers before digging in and enjoying the fruit. Alex, you’re so very good at simple posts loaded with value. Thank you!

    • Paula G. Rosario

       Hi Vidya,  I love your banana analogy!  It’s always great to learn other perspectives and viewpoints — thank you for sharing.  I appreciate your comment! 

      Here’s to your greatness,

      Paula G. Rosario, On The Edge of Greatness Coaching & Consulting
      http://www.paulagrosario.com

      • Paula,  So sorry I didn’t acknowledge you in my comment. Hugs! This is so like something Alex writes….what can I say? Thank you for the wonderful post!

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