May everyone be happy and safe, and may their hearts be filled with joy. – Buddha
How many times a day do you hear the “little voice” inside your head that sometimes whispers and sometimes shouts “you are just not good enough”?
Or perhaps it says, “Who do you think you are?” Or, “Surely you must be crazy!”
If not so direct, the “little voice” can sometimes feel like self-doubt, lack of inspiration or simply putting up with a situation that you know you should have ended.
The truth is that most of us have grown so accustomed to our “little voice” that we don’t really notice it anymore. It has become a part of who we are, how we feel about ourselves and how we live.
These thoughts are not good or bad. They just are thoughts. Ultimately, they either support your goals, hopes and dreams or they prevent you from achieving them.
If this self-appointed critic has become a squatter; taking up valuable space, squashing your dreams and sabotaging your success before you even begin, it is time to move him/her out and clear the space to make room for your creativity, joy and happiness!
Here are three things you can do right now to kick out the squatter. By taking action, you can make an immediate impact, begin to shift how you interact with others and ultimately enrich your life with more joy:
Pay attention to your thoughts. Particularly when you hesitate or hold back when there is a part of you that feels like you’d really like to take a step toward your dreams. Question: does this thought support me or not?” The simple act of paying attention and becoming aware of your “little voice” can stop it in its tracks.
Carl Jung once said, “What you resist persists.” Once you have finished step one and you clearly see and hear the “little voice” for what it is telling you, don’t try to push the thought away. Say either to yourself or out loud, “I hear you. Thanks, but no thanks.”
Now take the negative thought and make it affirmative. For instance, if your “little voice” has you thinking, “oh, I’ll never meet this deadline”, the opposite of that would be, “I will meet this deadline with time to spare.” Then, replace the old thought with the new thought!
Did you know it takes only 21 days to form a new habit? Take these three simple steps, practice, practice, practice and in less than one month you will have a powerful new “little voice” that echoes, “way to go!”