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10 Things You Wish You Had Never Learned

By on Sep 14, 2008


True knowledge lies in knowing how to live. – Baltasar Gracin

At first glance this idea, to identity 10 things you wish you had never learned, may seem like negative or backwards thinking. Personal growth and self-awareness should only focus on the positive – right? However, you must first acknowledge what you want to change or heal before real growth can occur. We have all learned from the negative thoughts and experiences which have contributed to defining who we are today.

At times, we have learned to what amounts to be garbage about ourselves, our loved ones and about our role, identity and place in this world. There is no filter that has been built around us to sift through the trash we sometimes absorb.

Therefore, it is important to be your own filter. It is important to see what is working for you in your life right now and to keep doing more of that. It is also important to recognize what is not working for you and do your best to rid yourself of this garbage.

What we think to be true; what we think we know; what we have learned can be counterproductive to our personal growth, success and happiness. Especially if what we have learned is keeping us from having the intimate relationships and personal satisfaction we deserve.

It has taken me my whole life to figure out what I wish I had never learned. I’m sure I will be adding to this list for many more years to come.

  1. I wish I had never learned that I’m not worthy to have what I want.
  2. I wish I had never learned that it’s waste of time to be spiritual and to worship.
  3. I wish I had never learned how to be smoke and mirrors.
  4. I wish I had never learned that I could change my situation by being perfect.
  5. I wish I had never learned that wearing eyeglasses is a sign of weakness.
  6. I wish I had never learned that I my value was determined by others.
  7. I wish I had never learned that being confident and secure was only a myth.
  8. I wish I had never learned that sex equals intimacy.
  9. I wish I had never learned that speaking up for my needs was a waste of time.
  10. I wish I had never learned that I wasn’t enough.

Please consider sharing items from your list in Comments. You do not have to give your name, and your email address is not shared. We can all learn the things we wish we had never learned from each other.

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  • Ms. Washed Up

    I wish I never learned to be the caretaker of other people
    I wish I never learned that my needs will never be taken care of by the one I love
    I wish I never learned to cut the grass and use the weedeater
    I wish I never learned that the thing I feared most about marriage was exactly what I should
    have feared
    I wish I never learned that my efforts are not appreciated, that my only reward is knowing
    that I did right by somebody I love
    I wish I never learned the pain of losing a 19 year old son
    I wish I never learned the pain of watching my father become elderly and increasingly feeble