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10 Sure-Fire Ways to Raise Your Self-Esteem

By on Dec 25, 2013


Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-break on. – Maxwell Maltz

Self-esteem is a tricky thing. If it is too high – you won’t have a good reputation. If it’s understated – you won’t achieve success.

Do you suffer from indecision and self-doubt? Then this article is right for you!

How to raise your self-esteem

A person with a low self-esteem can be seen a mile away – by their walk, their behavior, their speech.

If a person is constantly stressed, constantly criticize themselves, neglect their appearance, health, and if they suspect bad attitude towards them, seeing “conspiracy” in everything, sooner or later, they will find themselves in a vacuum.

Others will simply avoid them as no one wants to have contact with a loser. What’s next? Depression with all its consequences.

However it’s quite possible to cope with the problem, but it takes time and conscious work on your personality.

10 tips to improve your self-esteem
  1. Accept yourself the way you are.
    Honestly, with all your advantages and disadvantages. After all, looking back, it is always interesting to remember where you started your exciting journey to success.
  2. Stop comparing yourself with others.
    The only person you can compare yourself with – is you a week, a month, a year ago. If you are better today than yesterday, it is a serious reason to be proud of yourself. For example, a year ago you couldn’t drive a car, but today you feel like an experienced driver. Each smallest victory is a reason to praise yourself, even if today you managed to get up half an hour earlier than yesterday.
  3. Avoid self-deprecating remarks and assessments.
    Your self-esteem is closely connected with this. Learn to accept compliments properly. Forget shyness and other similar nonsense.
  4. Feel worthy of compliments.
    No matter how you might feel about yourself, believe this: You are enough!
  5. Watch your posture.
    Do not let your shoulders drop down. Yes, it takes effort and control.
  6. Want to experience a bit of a healing shock?
    Record yourself on a tape. It may be a monologue, but better a dialogue. Now listen to how it sounds. Do you mumble? Swallow the end of words? Speak too softly with guilty and begging tone of voice? Well, don’t be surprised that others can treat you accordingly. Learn to speak firmly, calmly and kindly.
  7. Pamper yourself.
    You deserve what you want.
  8. Worldly wisdom can help you to cope with your low self-esteem.
    Aim to speak not only with similar to you people, but also with those who can teach you something. If you are willing to learn from their experience, then you have already passed half way to the victory.
  9. Learn to say “no”
    A person able to defend their interests deserves respect.
  10. Just love yourself.
    This is completely normal. There are no perfect people in the world, and the experience of each person, including yours, is priceless and unique. So don’t be afraid to go your own way and make your own mistakes.

Roman Soluk owns Optimistic Life blog (www.oplife.org). He writes about personal development, positive living and optimism. Get in touch with him at Google+.

  • Roman,

    Good post! I think you hit the nail on the head with #1 being #1. Regardless of whatever is happening on the outside, this much needed form of ‘self-acceptance’, is more needed in this modern-world than we can possibly even know. I’m heading-over to check out your blog—


    • RomanSoluk

      Thanks a lot, Robb, for sharing your thoughts! I’m glad you like it!

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